Well... As you can see under my name. I am not out at all. Still completely in my closet. But why? Well I don't expect any of you to be able to tell me that. But I am wondering if someone can relate a little... Both of my brothers are clearly not against LGBT in any way. In fact one of my brothers is friends with 2 gay couples. However... I don't know anyone personally who is trans. But still. I don't see a reason at all they would be against it. I can just imagine what they would say. I could be like... "I'm trans." They would be like..."OK." I can imagine that exact reaction from both of them, lol. That is why I love them. They are so open minded. So why would I not want to tell them? Why would I be nervous to tell them, when I already know their exact reaction? Well... I think it is because I feel uneasy about suddenly switching like that. That is, they thought of me as male for 22 years. Now I want to change that. Kinda sudden. And shocking. Even though they will accept it. I do really like the way one of my brother's friends came out to me though. He works at an office with programs for helping people with various barriers trying to find work. And someone came in and had a discussion with him about how they should have something for LGBT. And in the discussion he said he was gay. I kinda knew him for a little while at this point. And he just casually brings it up. "I never had a reason to say it until now. Why should I say it without a reason? Why shouldn't I be able to just bring up casually in a conversation?" And that is cool. He has no anxiety or fear telling people that at all. These are the kinds of people in my circle. So really I shouldn't have an issue telling people about me, but I do. There is no way I'd tell my parents though. They'd be uncomfortable with this for sure.
Well... I might still tell my parrents someday... But it is going to be very awkward and I have no clue how they will react.
Hello Quiet Raven, its OK to be nervous we all are it is OK . All I can tell you is that you will come out when you are ready to and there is no reason to rush things there is a reason you are not able to yet what that reason is only you know .I have a feeling that when you do decide to come out you will do great Please try and relax and take a deep breath it we are here for you feel free to message me I will be glad to talk anytime you need too
Thanks Actually, you know what? I think I am starting to get the courage to at least tell one of my brothers. Though surely after I tell him I can tell tell the other one soon after. Not sure if it will be today... But it might be...
Well I sent my brother a message talking about it. Still waiting for a reply... Actually it was a while ago... I expected I would have one by now... Maybe he actually doesn't know what to say... Or maybe he just didn't see it yet. That is still possible. I'm so anxious, lol.
I dont know but raven even though im having a break down right now your an exception and i love you dearly right now i am just losing faith in lesbian and bisexual girls because all the experiences i had with them at the age of 4 is bearing me nothing but pain and lonliness http://emptyclosets.com/forum/gener...rience-same-sex-seems-like-one-sick-joke.html
Well he responded! And as I expected he is totally cool about it. "No reason you should be awkward about this, it is something that should be perfectly normal".
Yup! Thanks. Now just trying to decide how I should go about telling my other brother. But I think I will soon.
Funny thing is though... Just after telling him. I started to have doubts, lol. I still don't know what I am! Lol. Maybe I'm genderfluid? I dunno, so many labels. Point is, I don't know for sure if I want to be full on female anymore, but I don't want to be afraid to be more "feminine". And the first step I think I want to take... Is dyeing my hair purple. I was always afraid to do that before because I afraid to be too "feminine" in public. But not anymore.
OMG I am so happy for you it is so great that you were able to start to come out! I knew you could do it It is great that he is so supportive to you , and do me a huge favor please don't worry about putting a label on your self right now you have the rest of your life to put a label on yourself so why worry now . You are so brave !!!!
Isn't it great that people can find support from empathetic people who can relate to being different. Be who you are, forget the labels. Advice I am trying to follow myself. There is no "normal" to human existence. Everyone is unique. Expressing that uniqueness ought to be celebrated.
I once knew a guy in middle school who dyed his hair pink. I don't think anyone would make fun of you. And even if someone does, they are the lesser ones for making fun of hair color of all things. Anyway, congrats on coming out to your brother. :eusa_clap
Yeah. I am just looking for a job now. I spoke to a few people and they said I'd be best off waiting until I get a job first. They can't fire me just for hair color, but they may judge me negatively in an interview. I only spoke to them about the hair thing, my brother is still the only one I completely came out too... ---------- Post added 11th Nov 2014 at 02:44 PM ---------- Yup! It is great!
