Well...there is this girl that I have a minor crush on. She's 17 and I'm 16. We've known eachother for quite a while. Her mom and my mom are good friends. The thing is though...they're Christians. I don't know her sexual orientation nor does she know mine. I believe she assumes I'm straight because I had a boyfriend way back. I'm scared of coming out to her. :icon_redf:icon_redf But that's not the case. She tends to be real touchy with me and she once sat on my lap. When we go shopping, we sometimes hold hands and she called me " girlfriend" . I couldn't tell if it was friendly or.. I hanged out at her place today and when I went in her room, I kind of flirted with her but not where she can assume that I'm a bisexual. I want to tell her, but at the same time I don't want to ruin our friendship. What should I do? :help:
This is a difficult situation. Your friend could be being very friendly or she could be being flirtatious, only you really know. The key question is, do you trust her with your secret? Has she shown any homophobic behaviour? If you trust her and come out to her then you should definitely leave the part out about you fancying her, as that may affect your friendship. If she is gay/bi then she may respond by coming out to you. If she does come out then it may be worth mentioning your crush, but if she doesn't then it is probably best not to mention it.
Hi there! As King mentioned, has she ever said anything that would indicate that she would not be supportive and/or accepting? Does she have other friends who identify as LGBTQ? If you haven't done so yet, that would be the first thing to gauge then. If you feel that she would be supportive, and you trust her, try speaking with her when the two of you have a moment alone together.
You could always try bringing up the topic yourself. Maybe try engaging her in a discussion on something you have read, or heard on the TV.
i personally wish i was in your situation but yeah i kinda agree with everyone just ask her about her orientation when you feel the moment is right
I'm definitely with King on this one. It's all about trust. But also, if she's a true friend she'll understand the differences between you. And if she is bi or lesbian then congrats I guess lol. And good luck girl
There have been some excellent points raised, I certainly think bringing up an LGBT topic, such as a gay celebrity or character is worth doing to gauge a response.
Alrighty...It might take several days though. I'll be too busy with school. But I'll try. ---------- Post added 11th Nov 2014 at 12:27 AM ---------- [/COLOR] Haha, I like that one. I'll definetly try and bring up a gay celeb. Miley Cyrus persah? Thanks for all the comments! All were helpful.
I don't have much else to add apart from what the others have mentioned.. Bringing up an LGBT subject that you have read about or seen on tv might be a good start, it will give you both a chance to state your feelings about it.. Just cause her family is Christian doesn't mean she has the same view point as a lot of Christians. I hope it all goes well.
True true...my family is also Christian as well. But you have a point. Thanks ---------- Post added 11th Nov 2014 at 10:35 AM ---------- Update --------- I'm texting her now and so far brought up Modern Family, which she doesn't watch as much, only NetFlix. So I brought up Orange Is The New Black, since it's on NetFlix. You guys heard of that show right?? Okay good. Yes, she heard of it and .....
