Greetings everyone, and here is a nice story for you. Here it begins: It was a dark and stormy night. (melodrama, anyone?) Once upon a time (today at lunch), I fully intended to ask my friend for some advice about flirting without the disclosing name or gender of the girl I was flirting with. I had just returned from a chorus rehearsal during which she had touched my hair and my hands *squeal* and I wasn't sure if she had been flirting back or just being friendly. So I traveled to lunch with such an important question giving purpose to my every step. Little did I know that this innocent "girl talk" was about to turn dangerous. Suddenly, I was attacked by ninjas My friend said she wasn't sure, but gave me some general hints and signs she has seen, then said she would need more context if I wanted a more specific opinion. I said no way, and then, "I don't think you two know each other, but I don't want to tell you who I like on the off chance you do know..." and I was going to say each other but I guess adrenaline got to me or something and I said "her." My heart dropped to my feet as I realized I had made the worst mistake of my life: using a gender-specific pronoun. *cue audience gasp* Seriously, melodrama aside, I feel okay about this but also a teeny bit apprehensive because now she has a clue. This is a normally clueless girl, but still. She has a clue.
... and THEN what happened? What did she say? And what about the Ninjas? There are so many unanswered questions in this story! Seriously though, it sounds like you were confronted by what you thought could be a worse case scenario, and actually realised it didn't feel quite as bad as you thought to let that slip. Good for you! I wonder if she'll pick up on it? It sounds like you don't really mind if she does?
So you just kind of, sat there... and tumbleweed blew past? :icon_wink I'm sure she must suspect something, maybe she just didn't want to confront you about it, knowing that you wanted to keep it quiet.
How did you know about the tumbleweed?! :lol: Yes, there were an awkward few seconds, and then I went to go buy some food because I was really hungry. You're right, she probably didn't want to make it more weird for me. Knowing her, she'll be asking all of our mutual friends about it anyway- "Did you hear what she said?!" Honestly, I don't mind it, as the speculation has been going on for a long time anyway.
I like that you're feeling quite positive about it. Maybe it was easier to come out be accident than it would have been waiting for the 'right' time to come along? Not that I'm assuming she/they will jump to any conclusions. If they do talk, you should totally play it off as an intentional thing. "Oh yeah, well it's not like it was a big secret or anything! I thought I told you already?" They will never know! :icon_wink
I'm liking this, actually. It was still a slip which makes me feel a little nervous, but there only seem to be good outcomes. Since I'm still not sure of my sexuality I don't want to "officially" come out, but this way I don't have to hide things from my friends. And if no one says anything or even thought much about the slip, at least it wouldn't be a surprise if I did decide to come out as bisexual or something in the future.
Oh yeah, I didn't mean anything like a big official announcement I just meant be open about the fact you're questioning. I'm going to stop hijacking your thread now so that someone else can provide their opinion! For what it's worth though, I think you have the right way of looking at it! Those ninjas though. They might be a problem.
