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Well that backfired...

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by DominoSuis, Nov 25, 2014.

  1. DominoSuis

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    It's a little awkward to explain, but I think coming out at work about my sexuality - ignoring its ambiguity for a second - is going to be more than a little difficult.

    There's one fella at work who likes to joke a lot about sexuality in general, and he seems - well, seemed - to be a respectable guy in that regard. So I decided to start testing the waters with him, and made a few side jokes (very light, nothing offensive!) about bisexuality. Joking back and forth with him is usually a good way to check his opinion without actually TELLING him outright.

    Well... it didn't go the way I wanted. Right after the word 'bisexual' crossed my lips, he scowled and went into a rant about how bisexuals don't exist; they're just heterosexuals or homosexuals being greedy and seeking attention.

    And now I feel like a massive idiot.

    Uhm, is there any way to talk to him about this without revealing my own sexuality? I'm a little nervous to now.
     
  2. OnTheHighway

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    I would have stated something like: "What a typical cliche type of comment to make, couldn't you be a little more original? Rather than being greedy, aren't they really just more opened minded about their sexual possibilities? And what, are you jealous?"
     
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    i'm Bi, i don't see it as being "greedy", rather i see it as not being limited to just one gender.
     
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    It sucks that he reacted in that way.
    Some people don't accept what they don't understand.
    Try not to get defensive. Only education will open his eyes and that can be a lengthy process.
     
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    I have to agree I don't think he can fully understand what it really means to be gay/bi what ever you want to do or be called ! I think he reacted this way because he was may caught off guard and it scared him ! I say don't wast your time with him but if you must talk to him I would have to agree with USxUK and maybe say something like this .
    "What a typical cliche type of comment to make, couldn't you be a little more original? Rather than being greedy, aren't they really just more opened minded about their sexual possibilities? And what, are you jealous?"

    But this is only my opinion . Good luck
     
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    Don't take it personally. Like Mangotree said, some people won't accept what they don't understand. I wouldn't bother talking to him again.