Coming out to high school friend i haven't seen over 10 years

So here is my situation and in need for some advice.

I've only came out to a few close friends so far. I'll be traveling out of state and will be staying with one of my old high school friends that i haven't seen in over 10 years. We kept in touch together via facebook but it seems now a days since we're busy and have our own lives our friendship is not like it was back in high school. Anyways, my gut is telling me that i should tell him that I'm gay before staying at his place for a few days or should i not bring it up and just wait until the "relationship" topic comes up during conversation? Thanks.

 

From what I remember back in the day, he was the church-going-type-of-guy that did mention homosexuality is a sin and the gays will go to hell. But whats complicated was that he never dated any girl in high school, always dressed in the latest designer clothing, well-groomed, a lot of female friends, and a lot of people suspected he was gay. I was probably like one out of the two guys he met during high school that he actually hanged out with (we both liked video games and laughed at the same stuff). Over the years since i had him on myspace and facebook, he never posted any relationships he had with any women. So i dont know.. Im thinking of just staying at a hotel and probably just inviting him for dinner or something and telling him then why i didnt accept the offer staying at his place.

 

sounds exciting. Just one question: so are you maybe hoping that he'll tell you that he is gay too, and that you'll be able to take your friendship to the next level?

 

Thanks for the advice fellow members. I am hoping that he is gay too- it would be nice to have at least one friend i can actually relate with (all my other friends are straight)- nothing serious though- i always consider him a very good friend. Ill keep you guys posted in what happens when i come out to him. Ciao

 

and if he's a good friend, he'll stand by you even if he's not gay, right? and if he doesn't stand by you, at least you'll know. I'm hoping that he is both a good friend, and that he comes out to you as well. that would be the dream scenario! I remember guys from when I was in high school that when I look back, it is SO obvious that they are gay, and one of them was even trying to come on to me but I didn't realize it. If I stilled lived there, I would look him up and let him know I'm gay. I've tried to find him on the internet, but no luck. so don't miss your chance to find out. good luck!

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p.s., after typing that email above, I went on facebook looking for him. I found somebody who MIGHT be him, with lots of gay logos and stuff on his web page. I sent him a friend request. I hope, I hope, I hope... So glad you're not waiting 40 years to follow up, like I have!!!

 

Hooray Hooray Hooray Hooray Hooray!!!!! Regacter, you gave me the idea of tracking down my high school buddy on FaceBook. I sent him a send request, and he accepted. they I saw all this gay stuff on his page, and was so excited. We started chatting, and I came out to him right away. I am SO SO SO happy today. thanks for the suggestion

 

Happy for you Wildside Dream scenario came true ill give an update to what happens when i meet my old high school friend in a few weeks.

 

Thanks so much, Regacter! I LOVE YOU!!! (in a family way, of course). It was what you said here that gave me the idea, and the COURAGE!!! I'm praying for you! I really look forward to reading how things turn out for you with your old high school friend.

 

Update:

So yeah, apparently he turned out to be gay too ::lol:: We havent seen eachother for over 10 years and when we met it was just like old times from high school. I came out to him and he said he already kind of knew and added "took you long enough!" I found out that he had a partner and he wanted me to be his bestman at his wedding next year. He ended up taking me to all the gay bars/club in the area and gave me some really good advice. I ended up staying in a hostel and not his place and when he found out where I was staying- he drove me to the hostel, grabbed my luggage, and said "what the hell!? Grab your ::beep:: your staying with me!" It was nice and i am very happy- my best friend ended up apparently being my gay best friend

 

wow, Regacter, so there are at least three happy endings from you sharing on EC. First me, then you, then OOC73. I am so happy for you, it sounds like your visit with your "best gay friend" was totally spectacular!!! the tour of the gayborhood, and the advice he gave you, well, what can you say but priceless!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!