Hi guys. I'm gay but I'm only out to 1 friend. I want to tell everyone but Im not comfortable with saying just ''im gay" so how do I discretely drop hints so they might assume I'm gay or will be expecting it when I tell them. Any advice is appreciated Thanks
It's the hardest thing to say "I'm gay." For me, I said "I'm a boy who likes boys." and even then I wrote it down on a piece of paper instead! I think you shouldn't tell anyone you're not comfortable telling yet, so if you don't want to be completely out that's okay. However, you could do like me and write it down (you don't have to say the words) or you could try to drop hints... However, alot of people don't get the hints so what may be best is waiting 'til you think it's a good time, and kinda sit with them alone. Don't be surprised if you start to cry, because it IS hard to come out and say it... As I said, take it slow and know that this community is here for you, along with your friend hopefully.
Firstly, you're very brave for wanting to come out so young. In my experience, it's much easier to say (or nod) "Yes" if someone asks "Are you gay?" than it is to say "I'm gay". I guess the easiest way to drop hints is to just talk openly, honestly and plainly - similar to the way your heterosexual friends talk - as in not holding back. Talk about your interests, your future, your past, I guess who you're crushing on or who you find attractive (could just be celebs or sports stars if you don't want to talk about classmates), things like that. It will feel really weird at first because you've been holding it in for so long. After being out for nearly 12 years, it still feels weird for me sometimes. Be picky with who you want to be honest with. Expect a few shocked and/or funny reactions as well.
I guess another way - if you want EVERYONE to start suspecting that you're gay, buy some rainbow things e.g. bracelet, necklace, hat, shoe laces, sockes, pencil case I guess, stationary etc... If you have a tablet, smartphone or laptop, you could put your favourite male celebrity as the wallpaper. This is ONLY if you want lots of people to ask.
Ok, as another 13 y/o I will say, THINK IT THROUGH FIRST. I am not really flamboyant, but I show little interest in sports or other "masculine" things, and I have a fairly high voice, leading some to believe I'm gay. I deny it of course, but what I am trying to say is a) Do you REALLY want to be out? And b) if you are not perfectly masculine, or people ask if you are gay, and you have decided yes to "a", then just tell them "none of your business" if the question comes up. This will leave people thinking yes, and word will spread. If school reaction is bad, say you just didn't think it was important, you are straight. If reaction is good, say that you're gay. Best of luck, I'm not coming out anytime soon, so it is nice to see young people who are!
^Basically this. When the opportunity arises in the conversation, try to say something that would make them suspect.
I understand how it makes you feel ,yes you are uncomfortable telling people but I have some advice that was given to me from a very wise and powerful admin lol anyway he told me that the more times I tell it the easier it will get and you know what it is I thought he was full of it but it is true . I wish you the best of luck
What I did was just a boy and say hey this is my boyfriend, so I never had to do the whole gay thing. You could do a similar thing by simply agreeing with their crushes. I.E., "That boy is so cute", you could say, "Yes, I would date him". Unfortunately, the line here gets blurred and that's not a frank coming out, so in many cases they may revert back to you being 'straight'. This is what happened with me. Coming out in an undeniable way is usually best. But the above works well too.