In October I had came out to basically all of my friends when I sort of came to terms that I am a Lesbian. But like after I had came out to them I like went back into the closet because at that time I wasn't really sure at what I am so I told them that it was a phase. But now I know for sure at who I am but I am not ready to come back out to my friends yet and I was wondering have you guys ever went back into the closet after coming out to your friends?
I went back into the closet to my parents and family, but not to my friends. I "changed" from lesbian to bisexual to "straight". My parents and family know that I have the ability to be attracted to other women, but I made a post on Facebook, basically stating that I realized I am "just a straight tomboy". Biggest mistake ever. I wish I never came out in the first place because things are a mess now and I've lost a lot of friends over this. The rest of them aren't phased by it as far as I'm aware. Only one of my colleagues know that I'm into women too, but I don't think he takes me seriously. For the most part, I've gone back into the closet. I don't hide my sexuality, but I don't go around telling everybody about it.
In my twenties I told one friend and my parents that I had [sexual] feelings for men. At that time I had gone to the occasional gay bar and night club. Other than that all I had ever done was kissed a few guys and went on one date with a guy, I had never kissed a girl - that just did not interest me. Back then being gay was illegal and socially taboo. Scientists thought that sexuality was a learnt behaviour. I went to therapy so that I could "cure" myself and meet a nice girl and get married. (I was always and still am a closet romantic) To make a long story short I got married and kept fooling myself for twenty years of marriage. I kept myself emotionally numb. My wife dragged me along to a martial arts class, for moral support, (I'm a total pacifist), she stopped going but I went on to become quite good at it. I got to a level where I had to contact my inner emotions in order to advance in the martial art (high level black belt stuff). I gave up that sport and after a few months of depression I broke down crying and came out to my wife. She took it well, she had always thought that I was bi but never suspected that I was gay (not into women at all gay). Since then things have been getting better. We are still together - there is a lot more to a good relationship than sex (it's the closet romantic in me) As I'm coming out to more people and not hiding the real me life is becoming wonderful. ride:
I have known I was gay since sixth grade, came out to my sister at 19- she,of course relayed that back to the parent. Nothing came of it cept dad telling me I need to get laid. Been in the closet till right before 49th b-day last December. mom took it ok but the under tone of don't you embarrass me. Dad kept trying to convince me I was not gay
