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Sterotypical?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by george678, Oct 13, 2008.

  1. george678

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    Does anybody know why we get categorized as:
    • We have AIDS
    • We Smoke
    • We cant be in a steady relationship
    Well i get annoyed at that.
    Also people taking the piss out off gays annoys me as well.
     
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    Because a lot of people believe that gay men in general are promiscuous and always love to go out to gay bars to dance, drink a lot of alcohol, and have unprotected sex with as many men as possible. It's probably stereotypical to think that the girl is the only thing holding a guy back from having casual sex with lots of people, and that when you're gay, you don't have that kind of regulation on you. But the promiscuous thing more likely stems from Bible-based beliefs that someone who is accepting of one's "sin" leads to a loss of all morality, thus not caring about having a steady relationship with one person.

    As for the smoking, I have no clue. Perhaps they think that since the promiscuous life is a sad and unfufilling one, the cigarette represents the stress from which they're trying to weigh off? I don't know.
     
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    Thanks for the reply i don't want to go to gay dances or anything but when your voice cracks will it sound gayish if your gay?
    I don't want that to happen.
     
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    I would love too hav a steady relationship, that said i do love to go 2 gay bars n dance n get drunk XD
    but i'm not promiscuous XD
    n i dont smoke ewwwwww
     
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    I know with the smoking it is eewww.
     
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    I think basically what's already been said. Most people think gay men are very promiscuous and go to bars to meet other gay men. Some may do that, but I don't think the majority does.
     
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    I agree with you.
     
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    I take it you mean will your voice sound very camp?? well if it doesnt now, then it shouldnt do when it breaks. You might just have to wait and see. There are a some people who do fit the stereotypical view of a gay man but the majority of people dont.
     
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    I hope i dont.:frowning2:
     
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    I have the campest voice EVER lol
    It's breaking at the moment
    and it always has been so I guess it always will be
    Woot for me lol

    But for the serious question
    Maybe it's because there's a disproportionate amount of gay porn
    As in I think there's something like 50% of porn is gay and 50% is straight
    And considering that only 1.2% of people are gay and 1.15% bisexual* that is quite a lot of porn haha

    And lots of people think that porn is like the real world....in which case girls wear high heels to bed lol

    *source: an Australian telephone survey...you can decide how credible this is**
    **gosh: I sound like a wikipedia article lol
     
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    Lol yeah i suppose is it harder in your opinion to be bi?
     
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    Oops it's way less than 13% lol. I'm gonna find out the right statistic and edit it in.

    Uhm I don't know, I guess in my opinion once you're out it would be more fun as in more choice lol

    But I think to come out it's probably easier because you're only half in the closet to start with
    But also people sometimes forget that people can be bisexual and that people are just gay or straight. It's like no lol
     
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    Yer i think how can u be bi but my friend he prob thinks how can I be gay?
     
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    I'm not quite sure what you mean there lol

    I have sent a message to the webmaster because I was too slow in editing haha
     
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    Well I think to myself how are guys(my friends) etc straight but my friend I told i think he thinks how can he be gay.I think how can you ^^ be bisexual!!!
     
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    Oops *took a rather long time to reply*

    Idk how I can be bisexual I just am :grin:
     
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    Yer same as being gay i guess?
     
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    I think the media has a heavy infuence on the way gay men (more then other orientations) are percieved.

    Perhaps not so much now but in the past when it was less commonly accepted, there were a lot of slurrs snd references to that kind of lifestyle through the media.
     
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    Yes I suppose but I guess people have to live with it now.
    But we need to get rid of the stereotypical thing.