COming out to guys.

The first person I came out to was my best friend (male). It may sound a little lame, but the words I used were to the effect of "I'm not coming onto you or anything, but I'm gay." It doesn't really roll off the tongue, but it gets the most important points across. And by throwing it in early, it re-enforces the message rather than having it mentioned as an after-thought.

I'm not you and I don't know your friend, so I dunno... But that's what worked for me.

Good Luck!

 

i was worried about the same thing when I came out to my two guy best friends.

I was just like, "Theres something I want to tell you, but I have reservations, because I'm afraid you'll get the wrong idea." yada yada. And then I was finally just like, "I'm gay. I just don't want you to think I'm interested in you."

it worked pretty well. even though I hooked up with one of them later. ;x

 

i have a total of two guy friends and both of them are uber religious !

 

No i am same age just if he asks or you feel the need to say well i dont fancy you BTW.

 

i know i hate that feeling as well but i wouldent worry about it if he is really as good a friend as you say he is he wont care

 

No problems are you going out?

 

No problems ask him out.
xxxxx

 

Just saying this as a tie-in...

It took me a long time to come out to my friends...and when I finally did, I thought to myself "Why didn't I sooner?".

We all have to discover when we are ready to say something ourselves, but if your friends are truly committed to YOU, then they are not going to care. I decided to let friends know at a party in May of this year...the party wasn't mine or anything, but many of my friends were there....I just told them because I felt comfortable with them and they simply replied "Great! I am glad you said something." So, what I say is, wait until you are comfortable enough with your friends, and they with you, that you know your orientation being out there won't change their perception of you.

 

So dont be afraid!! I told all my friends (all guys)this week although you get the odd questions it does feel sooo much better.

 

Well, Ive only told 3 or 4 guys. and ALOOOOOOT of girls. Everyone else who knows just found out. But ya, I'm not good at tellign guys for some weird reason...doesnt matter if I like them or not, I just don't feel comfortable telling them...

 

I think a lot of straight guys if they make occasional homophobic jokes but don't show any extreme objection to gayness then they would probably joke less about it if they were with someone they knew was gay?

I reckon he will react fine if you tell him you're not interested in him

 

i think sometimes str8 guys act gayer than gay guys Ex.) this past tues. on the football bus (i'm waterboy) one guy had a erection and one of his friends touched it to see if it was his penis, it was (BTW it was huge!) then he didn't have a prob with it, one of his oher friends got one too and they tried to see who was bigger(by measuring with hands)! I wanted to touch too! then the guy who touched him tried to get "hard" but he couldn't, and the original one with the erection got himself "off" by sliding his penis back and forth in his pants! PS i was hard too! then i appeared to be sleeping (laying on back) and thought of dirty stuff so i could get hard and be noticed and i was then they kinda tapped my penis to ask me if i had an erection, i kinda smirked. PS none of them know i'm bi so i was safe completely. I wish i could go back and touch his penis!

 

Lol you devil!!^^^^^

 

^ i know, but it was awesome!

 

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