It has been a while since I logged into Empty Closets, so I would like to ask for everyone's patience with this post (since I feel like I'm sure this is the right place to post this). The super-short story: About a month or so ago, I came out as gay to one of my friends (who I will call A) who I volunteered with and went to class with. Her response was something along the lines of "I sorta knew that anyway." Up until then, I expected people to act in surprise, though it wasn't the first time someone said that; the first person I came out to (who I will call B) also said that she also knew, although when asked she said that I acted a little feminine when we went to school together. I never asked A about how she knew. My question for everyone is this: when you come out to someone you trust and they say that they partly knew (or express anything other than surprise) for quite a while, how do you deal with it?
Out loud: Oh ok. In head: Why the fuck didn't you say so? Could of made my life so much easier. Could of atleast given me a hint.
Shrug and move on. I might ask them what led them to that knowledge just for my own enlightenment and interest. But by and large, I don't see it as that big of a deal. Todd
I don't really see the issue. For me the most stressful thing about telling people is the possibility of it changing the way the perceive me in a negative way. If they already knew (or at least assumed correctly), then that's not going to happen, so it's all good. I mean, maybe a small part of me is annoyed that I wasn't pulling off the straight act as well as I may have thought I was, but really that's stupid and more of a reason to chuckle at myself than to actually get upset. I don't really wish they would have told me sooner because in my case I wouldn't have been ready to hear it from them sooner anyways.
