I was found out

I question why you would willingly break up with someone who you love, over the opinion of a person who later on you claim to be "accepting". I have no idea how your parents found out but I would assume that any action taken after that should not be considered as final as you are yet to discuss the situation with them. They need to come to terms with what they already know and you need to not allow for them to impose their wishes onto you. Taking a break from your girlfriend is something that I would consider a good plan, at least until you have things sorted out with your parents, breaking up entirely on the other hand is plain stupid. Unless you yourself didn't really love her that much in the first place.

 

How'd they find out? And why did they want you to break up?

Also, don't worry things'll get better.

 

Ok first of all i hate to say it but your mom doesn't really accept you. If she doesn't think that's who you are and making u dump your gf she's anything but supportive. I think u should tell her how u feel. She should love u no matter what. I would give it time and maybe she'll come around. She might just be making herself numb to it. Im sorry that happened to u good luck (*hug*)

 

well, your mom may be in a bit of shock, and she may go into some denial. eventually, the truth will be too hard for her to sweep away, by just ordering to break up with someone, and one way or another she will have to come to terms with it. that is, unless you join her in denial and pretend to be someone your not just to not make waves. that is a dangerous trap, and once you go there it only gets harder. Just continue to be your authentic self. when you're 13, a day is like a bizillion years, so it doesn't help much to have people tell you how much better it will be in five years. but it will be a little bit better day by day if you have the courage to be yourself. and what she discovered, can't be undiscovered. so, as much pain as you're in right now, you did get something out there that most people spend a lot of time agonizing about how they are going to tell their parents, or other significant persons. (&&&)

 

I guess that's really not fabulous then. maybe you can convince your mom to go with you to see a counselor/therapist who is used to dealing with LGBT teens. your mom isn't understanding that there are boundaries when dealing with a teenage daughter, and she seems to be stomping all over them, telling you who you can't date, outing you to others without your permission. I would give her the benefit of the doubt in the sense that she is ignorant. but you need to talk to her about it, and if that doesn't change things, then she is being intentional about it. it will be a hard time ahead for both of you if these keeps up. I don't guess it helps to hear, but I know that a lot of straight teens deal with some of the same boundary-crossing crap that you're facing. but as someone who was once a gay teen myself, I think that everything is hard for us. teenage years are hard for everyone, but they really are harder for us, and a parent who understands and helps can discover an intensity of parent-child relationship that lasts a lifetime, and is way better than what most parents get. you'all need to talk!!! (*hug*)

 

Ouch!!! I'm so sorry! Is there anyone else you can talk to? How 'bout your father? Grandparents?

 

That's what we're here for, we care and we're here to listen, don't give up, you aren't alone.

 

YES!!!! Greatwhale is absolutely right!!! There are people in your life that you can talk to. US!!! (&&&) And I have found that there is a lot of wisdom, compassion, and understanding that is shared here. Our hearts are with you, and we're here to listen and share, and sometimes even cry together :tears:. And in all of that, we find our joy (!)

 

definitely the wrong church! so sorry for you. they really need to find something better to preach about. :tears:

 

I'm not really sure if everything you say is actually real whats most weird to me is that you accept your self for being gay at the age of 13!!......

 

Please know that I accept what you say as true. that's the point of EC, it's where we can come to be honest. otherwise, what's the point, right? It's important that we all have enough respect for each other to accept our statements at face value. (&&&)

 

I accepted I was gay when I was 13