Coming out when you're not 100% sure

I don't think it's possible for me to be 100% sure of my sexuality. I do have moments where I feel like I'm close to being sure, but that never really lasts. Especially after other people doubt my sexuality. I don't think I'll ever be able to traditionally come out. I'm planning to show instead of tell. I just don't want to do stupid stuff. Is there anyway of making people think I'm gay without resorting to stereotypes or saying I'm gay?

 

I don't feel comfortable saying I'm questioning. Mainly because people often try to convince me I'm straight when I do that. Declaring a religion seems less serious than declaring your sexuality. I've met quite a few people who have changed religions. I can't really say the same about sexuality.

 

I really don't want people to know I'm unsure about my sexuality. I wish I could just be sure of my self.

 

Getting in a same sex relationship?

I personally dont think I would say anything till I felt comfortable with it. On the other hand, you may never feel comfortable with it until you at least admit it to yourself. Thats the first step.

 

just live life as you are. if anyone asks and you feel you want to share with them, just tell them what you told us. and if they try to convince you to be straight, well they are really not worth listening to. people do that out of ignorance (I'm giving them the benefit of the doubt) and you can just tell them to please stop, that you don't appreciate it. but we tend to build up expectations that it will happen and then if often does not. if it does, and they can't take a polite explanation, and then if they can't take a more blunt rebuke, then change the topic, ignore them, or just don't waste any time with them. but you are who you are and you are at where you're at. If you are pretty sure but not positive, then that is where you are. that's fine. celebrate being honest with yourself!!! that is what matters most

 

I fantasize about girls, but I don't care for girls in porn. I've enjoyed gay male porn before. In real life I'm attracted to girls, but I'm not sure if I'm sexually attracted to them. I sometimes feel like I'm attracted to guys, but every time I've had a chance to be with one I get repulsed. With girls I haven't really had any chances. The girls that have approached me weren't attractive to me. One was, but I wasn't sure if she was hitting on me or just being friendly. I got too anxious around her so I avoided her.

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I don't want people to know I'm still questioning. If someone were to ask me if I'm straight I would just say that I'm not. If they ask for a more specific label I would tell them it's not their business instead of saying I'm questioning. That doesn't really work if I'm coming out on my own terms.

 

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I considered myself gay at one point, but I started doubting myself when I tried to come out. I care way too much about what people think.

 

OK, I absolutely understand that. But caring about what people think does not change your sexual orientation. It can't. But it can push you into making some bad decisions, like feeling pressure to find someone for a heterosexual marriage. I speak only from my own experience. If I didn't care what people thought, I never would have done it. So, I tell you this not out of a sense of regret, but to emphasize that you do have a choice. And if you choose to put what others think first, you can project where that will take you. But it won't change your orientation.

 

It didn't really change my orientation. It just made me very confused. It also made me want to prove them wrong. That just caused HOCD.

 

I'm kind of confused about HOCD. I thought that was when straight people obsess about fear that they might be gay; not gay people who worry about the fact that they're gay and the implications of that. what does it actually mean?