okay i recently admitted to myself i was bi about a month or so ago and have told my close friends and family because i know its for sure iv always kind of known but iv had a crush on one of my best girl mates for about 2 years and its killing me shes straight and seems to be getting further and further away from me by the day she stopped hanging round with me and my friends about a year and a half ago moved onto the in crowd or whatever iv noticed lately shes getting reely bigheaded and i just dont want to feel like this anymore has anyone had a similar problem? i reely do need help :tears:
Oh yeah. I totally know how your feeling. I've had a crush on my best-friend since grade 9.. like 2 years. I told him I was gay about half a year after we became friends and he was cool with it. At the end of last year my feelings for him were getting really strong but he's straight.. and Christian, so I knew the was no chance and I was contemplating self-harm or even killing myself and then one of my other friends started helping me.. like him less. It sort of worked, but now we hardly hang out at all. Like, the last time we hung out was around a month ago and it sorta hurts cause I feel like he's starting to hate me or something. But what I did to not like him as much is I cut him out of my fantasies (which was really difficult) and replaced him with this imaginary guy of my dreams. And I used to do everything with him and I was in all his classes but this year I'm only in one of his classes and I'm hanging out with a larger variety of people. I don't know if this helped you at all but I hope it did
I know you probably don't want to hear this,but my advice is to let it go. People ,as well as friends,come & go in your life. You can't maintain a friendship that is one sided. Unfortunetly, people grow apart,sometimes. You seem like an intelligent,nice person and I bet you will have an easy time making new friends. I wish you all the best. Mickey**
You don't want to feel like what anymore? Like having a crush on her? Just keep telling yourself what you already know - the person you have a crush on doesn't exist. You have a crush on an idealized version of her, one that is gay (or bi), who still is really close friends with you, and who doesn't have a big ego. But since you're stuck with the straight, distant, egotistical one, that one isn't worth your time. Lex
Sadly we all can't get what we want (I should know!) I'm sorry that you feel that way. Sometimes you just have to let things go if you know for a fact that they are out of reach. But why can't you be friends with her? Try to reach out to her! Do anything you can in a nice matter and see where things lead to
Thank you all so much im feeling alot better today im thinking why should i hold on to who she used to be im starting to get over her abit i dont need her, because she isnt her anymore i think im just holding onto the hope that she will come back but after seeing her yet again today (not talking to me or anything) it looks like we hate each other in school for some reason we just dont talk but after seeing her it just reminds me who she is now i will get over her eventually
