what to say when asked are you gay?

It depends on how much you trust the person. If you think they are smart enough to keep it to themselves and you're comfortable with them knowing, go for it.

Otherwise, it's fine to lie or to dodge the question.

 

Well do you want other people to know? Are you comfortable with them knowing and potentially telling other people?

I never came out in high school because I didn't want people to know and since it was high school, gossip goes around fast. I didn't want people treating me different because of it. For instance there was this kid that was pretty much out to everyone and wore a rainbow sweatband around his wrist. Well he was in my Phys ED class and one of the other kids went to the Phys Ed teacher asking him to see if the gay kid would change somewhere else just because he was gay. We only changed clothes, we don't shower or anything. The teacher said he'll see what he can do. I was shocked at this but nothing happened.

 

I came out in high school but only because it was very accepting. If you feel that you're in a less than ideal environment then you can flip it around. Be like why, are you interested or something? That usually gets the person to stop asking.

 

You could do what Midnight Angel says, or you could also be reeaallly sarcastic and go, "Why, yes I'm gay! Your clothes look beautiful and those shoes really match your hair!" And start flipping your hands around making feminine actions.

I think that'll put them off too.

 

If you really don't want to come out to them and you know you won'ot at all in the future, I would say it's okay to lie to them and tell them no -- that's only if you're comfortable doing so. They don't need to know as it's none of their business. But it's your choice overall. I used to hate being asked that question in school, and I'll admit that the majority of the time I lied and said no.

 

If someone at my school asks me I'm like, 'Uh, yup.' But only cos it's very, very accepting and I'm practically out there already.

It's up to you whether you want to come out or not. If you think it'll be ok, go for it!!

 

I dodge the question cause i really don't know about myself.

But my best friend just says yes. and if u dont like it, f**k off.

 

it depends. it you dont think they'll react very well then lie. if you feel bad about lying, change the subject or turn the question around on them "why? Are YOU gay?".

but idk i've honestly never been asked. i would just strait up lie (no pun intended). i've had a girlfreind so thats pretty compelling evidence enough for me to get away with it.

if ur worried about how to react...hmm..idk just act normal. being too defensive will just confirm it. i'd just react like someone just asked me if know some stranger, a simple no and a "ur dumb for even thinking it" look.

 

I usually just say, "Hunh, why?"

 

I'm just like, 'Why? Are you interested?'
Then they either look offended and confused and walk off lol.

 

LoL, in my opinion if someone replied to me "Huh... Why?" or "Why, are you interested?" if I asked them, I would outright just go yup, they're gay.

Don't beat around the bush, if you feel comfortable with that person knowing, understand the risks involved then say yes, if you don't then say no (which is REALLY hard I know).

It gets the picture across a lot stronger then avoiding the question or being sarcastic IMHO.

 

if youre comfortable with it and if you trust them and want them to know, then say yes. if not, say no.

when people ask me if im gay, normally, i just say "no. bi."

 

Any random person who asks you WILL tell EVERYONE at your school. If someone is the type to go up to you just to ask if you're gay, then they are indeed the type to tell everyone they know because hey, people like to gossip about others.

If you think you'd be bullied once everyone found out, then I'd recommend waiting til after graduation to tell anyone other than close friends you trust.

 

It depends on the person who's asking. If it's a close friend who you feel comfortable being around, telling them might not be a bad idea. If some random prick off the streets walks up to you and just blurts it out, and you deny it, I won't tell if you don't.

 

I would say if it's someone sensible just say but if it's some dumbarse then say no
I'm really bad at acting, today someone was like do you have a girlfriend and i was like no then they were like do you have a boyfriend and got really defensive then i thought oh that was stupid

 

Like what everyone is saying, it depends on who is asking.
My new friend who happened to be Bi asked me the other day, and I simply said, "Aren't we all?"
I think she knows, mainly because I'm constantly shouting Vote No on 8.

 

As pretty much everybody else has said, if it is somebody you trust, and you feel comfortable telling them, then say yes. If it somebody else, then you should probably deny it.

That is the approach I have taken, but nobody has asked....yet. But I have a feeling a certain friend will ask me before too long.

 

ive only ever been asked straight out once, and i laughed and flat out denied it cause im not out to anyone, and also i wouldnt trust the guy who asked as far as i could throw him. id still dodge the question, or deny it even now, regardless of whether i trusted the person or not. but since your out to some people, i guess go with what you feel comfortable with and trust your instinct. if you dont want to confirm to some people, dont and if you feel ok saying yeah to others, do that, just say whatever you feel comfortable saying.