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Going on a dinner date..

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by epiphanies, Oct 26, 2008.

  1. epiphanies

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    So Sunday night I'm going to go on my first real date with another woman. (Just wrote about it in my blog). I'm pretty nervous. Any advice? It's just weird, because I'm still reeeeaaaaaaaalllly closeted and it's going to be odd to actually show if I like her.

    idk. I don't think I even have a real question here. Who knows.
     
  2. HighintheClouds

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    Haha. Okay... For my first date... We both met somewhere where we could go and have a nice chat and get to know each other. It was in the city area (so lots of life and people around). We ate at a Long John Silvers and just chatted and got to know each other more. After that, we walked around the city and ended up sitting down at a starbucks before splitting off for home. Not once did we hold hands or even kiss. It was purely a 'get to know the other person' session (he was trying to hit on me though, but actually appreciated the fact that I was purposely slowing things down and keeping a distance).

    We're now steady. =)

    That's just an idea of what you may want to do. Hope it helps!
     
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    Don't do anything you're uncomfortable with.

    Other then that, all I have to say that I reconmend you talk to this girl and tell her what you told us. Otherwise if you appear unaffectionate towards her, she might take it the wrong way.

    Prevention is better then cure.
     
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    Just be yourself and you will be fine. Also have fun!
     
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    Go somewhere you like, and order something you like. First dates aren't a great time to "try new things" - you already are. :slight_smile:

    Have a good time.

    Lex
     
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    So she twisted her ankle and can't make it tonight, so it's postponed til next Friday. So now I'm going to be nervous all week. AHH
     
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    That's unfortunate that she twisted her ankle.. I hear it hurts. :frowning2:

    But really, just try to be as comfortable as possible. Take control of the conversation, be the proactive one, asking questions, laughing, and having a good time. Be yourself! That is the most important thing you can do. Take care, and good luck on that date! :slight_smile:
     
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    Just an update....

    We ended up going out today. We ate at Applebee's, and she insisted on paying since she had to cancel at the last second last time. But we talked the entire time and it was really cool. We were talking about our different schools... and somewhere in there I mentioned that we have a curfew for when guys can't be in our room.. and she said "it's a good thing you're gay." That struck me weird. First person verbally saying that. But it's cool :slight_smile:

    Then we drove down to Natural Bridge and walked around. It was a couple miles round trip I think, but it was beautiful- a little cold. We got to the end of the trail and sat there and talked, with a waterfall in the background. Very relaxed and comfortable.

    We walked back, hugged at our cars, and went on our way. And she has been txting me a few times since. So yay :slight_smile: Very successful and glad things went well.
     
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    What a great first date! Good for you. See,it wasn't so bad!
    Will there be a second date? LOL! I'd bet on it!
    The best to you. Have fun!
     
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    Haha congrats! Glad it went well.
     
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    I only hope my first date goes that well, congrats!
     
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    That sounds like an ideal first date. Glad it went well. :slight_smile:

    Lex
     
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    I'm glad that the date went well. That's great!