right what it is my started to find gay porn sites in the computer history and she aske me if im gay this wa about a year ago i told her mum im not gay i like girls but last night she found some more porn and asked me again but i said no again i realy want to tellher but im so scared and i thinkshe sort of knows but im not sure and i need some advice
Here are a few things worth considering... First and foremost, how do you think she would react if and when you do tell her? She might be surprised or happy that you're finally being honest with her, or some other reaction. Supposing things go too far south on you, how old are you and what sort of living arrangements do you have? Personally, I generally advocate coming out, but I do have to add the caveat that I don't know your particular circumstances at the moment. If you think you're not going to get kicked out of the house or something, my initial reaction is to tell her, but before you do, make sure you're good and ready and that you do it on your terms. Please, keep us posted, eh?
To me it seems that she might already know, and is waiting on you telling her. How do you think she will react? How did she react to the porn? And on a Technical note, it seems you forget to remove all your traces, so I would suggest downloading "Portable Firefox" and running it off of a USB drive. Then you can do whatever, but as long as you have the USB drive, the history is gone.. Nothing to clean, or accidentally leave behind.
I can speak from some experience here since this was how i was outed by one of my friends. There is no point is denying it to be honnest - but if your circumstances aren't favourable maybe hold off. Maybe consider wiping all the info off the computer internet history after you look at porn. Download ccleaner (google it) it will wide files that build up and remove some internet stuff but not all. In internet explorer hit 'delete cookies', 'delete files' and 'delete history'. In firefox hit clear private data. To my peril it turns out hitting clear private data doesn't do too much becuase the files you view modzilla are stored in internet explorer folders - my friend as a result found a porn video even though i was sure i had wiped the files using ccleaner and modzilla.
Ya, listen to all the stuff they said bout erasing your history, but i think telling your mom would probably help take a bit of pressure off of her because she probably knows, but the denial ("Well he said he isn't gay") will probably be a problem for her..it would be good for both of you. But do what u think is right and i dont know your mom so, do wut would be easiest for you both.
I would have to agree that this is a very had hole to get yourself out of.. I would suggest looking at the thread Paul has made about clearing histories http://emptyclosets.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1675 ultimately though it's like any coming out attempt... assess the risk and if it'd be in your interest to fess up... go for it. If you fear that she'll react badly and you'd find yourself homeless then try and keep stum for a little longer. Would be interested to hear a little more on this one dhutchid... like how did your friend react? Jamie x
i would suggest coming out to her. but like everyone else said its your situation if you think that it would put you health at risk act accordingly. altho it sounds like she already knows and if it was a dangorus situation it would have presented itself already. I think your mother may supprise you.
