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Coming out advice- I'm scared people won't believe me

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by vespa27, Jan 18, 2015.

  1. vespa27

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    Hi all,
    I came on here a while ago as I was confused about my sexuality and I want to begin by firstly saying thank you to everyone who replied, I can tell this is a really great community.
    After many sleepless nights and lots of self reflection I now know that I am gay. And now has come the time that I've always feared, the time to come out. I am really not sure how to go about this as I have been quite insistent that I am NOT gay for quite a while (I think I was in denial). I've come out to my closest friend who has been great and doesn't see it as a big deal which is the ideal reaction I think. But I have no idea how to come out to my parents or my other friends or even my older sister who I am very close too. For a long time my mum was convinced I was gay and and I had many serious conversations to tell her that just because I am not interested in boys does not mean I'm gay and so on and so forth. And now I'm going to do a complete one-eighty and tell her I am gay! I know that I am really lucky as she is not homophobic and I'm not worried so much that she'll be bothered that I'm gay, but more that she won't believe me that I am (I know that sounds really daft). I almost feel I need a girlfriend as proof! I mused with waiting until I do meet someone but that could be years away and I am becoming more and more aware of feeling uncomfortable with letting everyone assume I am straight. I finally feel comfortable with myself, that I am attracted to people not because I ought to be but simply because I am and it drives me crazy that I am too scared to come out and say that I'm gay. I really don't want to make a big deal out of it but I do want people to know and I have no idea how to do that! So any advice, or stories of how you came out would be much appreciated!
    Thank you!
    Vespa27
     
  2. Chiroptera

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    Hey Vespa27,

    First, congratulations in coming out to yourself and to your friend. You have already taken huge steps!

    About coming out to your parents, other friends, sister, etc. , take a look here, this might help:

    Empty Closets - Coming Out and Staying Out

    Empty Closets - Coming Out Stories

    Empty Closets - Coming Out Letters

    You may also want to look at the Coming Out Stories section of the forum.

    Coming Out Stories - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender people coming out
     
  3. vespa27

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    Thanks, there's some really helpful stuff here, thanks for pointing me in the right direction :slight_smile: