So I think I'm gonna come out to my best friends

At this point all I'm gonna give you is encouragement cause you already know what to do. Good luck - these are exciting times

 

Good luck.

 

Good luck. Let us know how it goes! Every step you take out of your closet makes it easier to leave ours.

 

I'm going through the same thing you're going through right now. I know it's scary, but it sounds like you have a plan and you know what to do, so you have my full support and encouragement!

One thing I've learned in my short time on EC is that it's never too late too come out. Don't feel like this is something you have to rush, and don't feel defeated if you can't do it in the timeline you've set for yourself. You'll know when you're ready.

Good luck!

 

The people you might lose aren't really people you want to keep as close friends for the rest of your life anyway though, are they?

Anyway good luck for today, you'll tell them eventually

 

I can only speak for myself, but when I came out to the first person I told I thought it was going to be a heart-rending disaster. But honestly, the scariest part was all in my head - that person was so accepting and actually happy that I'd summoned the courage to tell her. This may be the case for you too. The people you're closest to might surprise you.

Again, don't feel defeated. Come out when you are ready. And keep us posted!

 

It is a way of doing things. I think the best way is to tell in person. This way you can see the real emotions of the person you are telling and so you can conclude the opinion they have. But if you think its the best way to do it, write down a text and send them when you are with them You don't tell them personally, so you can't chicken out after pressing SEND, and you can tell what they are feeling.

But above all, don't pressure the coming out. DO it when you feel like it. Good luck

 

Probably a lot less than you imagine. Coming out to a GAY person is usually a non-event, since they know what is going on in your head; the usual response seems to be "why didn't you tell me sooner, you dork", or "Yeah, I figured that out already."

 

How you come out is irrelevant, it's who you come out to that matters. I came out to my youngest brother in an argument, he was left speechless for about 3 hours! but accepted me without question in the end. I came out to the rest of my family via a text. the reaction was overwhelming positive!
The point I'm trying to make is: if the people you come out to are truly your friends the will always be your friends no matter what! How you come out is not that important.
From my limited experience I can say the feeling of being accepted for who you really are without exception is really wonderful and liberating.
I hope every thing goes well for you!

 

I think that coming out in a text message, or some other written format like a letter, is MUCH better than getting drunk to tell someone. Getting drunk too often is not good, and nobody really knows whether or not to take us seriously when we're drunk. and we're not really sure what we said, or how people reacted when we're drunk. keep working with your therapist, and if a text, email, or letter is what you're comfortable with, I don't see a problem with it. Some people come out on facebook, but I think that might hurt a lot of people who are important to you. good luck! (&&&)

 

I don't think coming out is something you want to do when you're drunk. People might not take you seriously, and you want to be in control of that conversation. If you want to have a drink before talking to your friend to steady your nerves, that's your call, but I'd advise against getting loaded. (Full disclosure: I had a beer before coming out to my friend. But I wasn't drunk, nor did I want to be.) If you're bursting at the seams to tell someone after a few drinks, then you'll still have the ability to tell someone when you're sober

Why would coming out ruin your friend's night or mess up your friendship? You being gay isn't going to change the fact that the two of you are best friends.

You can come out in person, or in a text message, or however else you feel most comfortable doing it. Definitely talk to a therapist if you want, because a professional will know how to advise you, especially if you're struggling with other things too.

But don't feel like you HAVE to come out before you're ready. And don't think that coming out will ruin a friendship. Why would it? You're still you, and if he's truly your friend, he'll support you.

Best of luck!