lying about sexuality and going to hell?

I like girls and sometimes I'm okay with that. I've contemplated coming out, but I keep avoiding it (most people think I'm straight).

Recently, I've been thinking about how religion and sexuality interact. I was raised a Christian (not a strict one) and the rest of my family is religious (strict and against homosexuality).

I've tried to resist my attractions, which can work sometimes, but it's tiring always keeping myself in check and avoiding certain people and situations. And I always fail anyway.

I can't see myself falling in love with and marrying a man, but I don't want to sin (according to the Bible).

Should I just come out as asexual, which would would be an excuse as to why I won't marry a man (or anyone for that matter)? Or is that lying, so I'll go to hell for that?

I don't want to suppress a part of me, because people have noticed I'm withdrawn and not myself. But I don't want to upset my family, or God.

I'm at a loss at how to handle this. I'm about ready to give up.

 

it would be a great injustice to marry a man knowing that you are gay. injustice to him, obviously, but also to yourself. to injure two persons like this just to avoid the family's condemnation would be a much greater sin than just living your life authentically and honestly. some families change when they realize that they have a gay person in the family. some families never change. but God made us the way we are, and we don't understand all his reasons. Just always remember that each time God created, he looked upon his creation and said that it was good. You are good, and if you live an honest life, true to who you really are, you should feel joy in knowing that your life pleases him!

 

I was just about to post this before I clicked on the link to see what is was!

The video that 8pointhunter3 posted covers very important information.

I am Roman Catholic, though not a strict practitioner.

In the New Testament, it is stated that the old laws have been fulfilled by Jesus and they are obsolete. Everything concerning homosexuality being a sin and all that other stuff is in the Old Testament. The Old Testament is the old law. It was kept more for reference and so that people know what went down. Kind of like a record of history.

In Rome, it was very common for a married man to only have sex with his wife for procreation. Women were seen is disfigured versions of the male body. Whenever they felt like having sex for pleasure, it was with another male. Usually an adolescent boy, who may or may not have been a servant. Since the Roman Empire ruled over the biblical lands, such practice was probably pretty common there as well. The reason why man laying with man was declared an abomination? Homosexual relationships were based off of lust at the time, one of the deadly sins.

You shouldn't be worried about upsetting God. God is love, he loves you for who you are, not what you do. Of course, if you went and murdered 57 people, God wouldn't be happy, but God would still love you. Because God is love. If you find a woman that you are attracted to and you begin a relationship with her, maybe you'll get married. You should focus on you yourself being happy. You are not obliged to get married to anyone. You could go through life unmarried and die unmarried. It's not unnatural or abnormal, it's merely not the social normative. I'm talking about both homosexuality and not marrying.

If your family is upset by your being a lesbian, it's not your fault. Their upset will most likely be caused by their own selfish and or ignorant reasons. You can't control whether or not your family gets upset by those kinds of things.

Also, you will not go to hell for such an innate aspect of your being.

A lot of people who think that homosexuality is a sin do so because they haven't read the Bible all the way through by themselves. They're going about their religion by hearsay and with predjudice, judgement, and hate. So really, they're not even practising any of the Christian faiths, they're just going about in some muck of misinformation and misunderstanding and calling it Christian or Catholic. I find it insulting and very rude.

If you decide to come out to your family, maybe do it after you've shared some enlightening information with them, like the stuff above. It's appalling how many people of Christian faiths don't know even a single shred of it. They're just believing what they're told and using someone else's opinion, not making their own. It's not uncommon for people to twist words to suit their own needs or opinions. All members of the church and Vatican — they are very much human and in the past, humans have been very nasty concerning religions and very corrupt. It is also said in the Bible that the Scribes were not always honest and would twist things.

One little tidbit for the end: God already knows your sexuality, your aesthetic preferences, and every little detail down to the very atoms that make up your being. Humans cannot comprehend the ways that God works and thinks because we are just that — human.

(*hug*)