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Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Belle the Bee, Feb 5, 2015.

  1. Belle the Bee

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    I'm just wondering how many of you knew you were gay (or whatever you are) without ever being in a gay relationship? Did you discover yourself through expirementing or did you just know?
     
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    I didn't really know, I'm still not 100% sure, but who is 100% sure about their sexuality? I've never had a relationship in general, so for sure not a gay relationship... I've never experimented either, like, with no one... but I just know what I feel, and that's how I know/knew, so yeah... how about you?
     
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    I've never been in a gay or straight relationship. Or experimented with anyone at all. But I wouldn't say I just knew I was gay. Maybe deep down I did, but I went through a stretch of time where I was in denial/confused/talked myself in circles endlessly. But eventually I realized and accepted that I had no interest in ever being with a guy and could only see myself with a woman.
     
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    I think I've always known. By always I mean after puberty, before that I was had no sexual attraction whatsoever (which is normal). I've also never been in a relationship, or experimented, but I only see myself with a woman.
     
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    I just knew. From a very young age I found other boys and men so much more attractive and it never changed.

    I didn't need to date or experiment to know, it's always been there.
     
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    I've never been in a relationship or done anything with a guy or girl. I was always attracted to girls, even if I was in denial and didn't know what that meant. And then I realized that while I used to wish for a relationship with a boy when I was younger, I didn't anymore. In fact, the idea was distinctly unappealing.
     
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    No, I've never been in a relationship with a guy or (or should that be nor?) a girl. I just know that men are sexy.
     
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    I had feelings toward guys for a while and experimenting sealed the deal. If you try kissing, making out or going further and it feels right, it's a sign.
     
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    I've always known, even without being in a gay relationship. Even when I was scared/ashamed of it, my thoughts were always about guys.
     
  10. Wildside

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    I guess the polite word would be "experimentation." There just came a point when I realized that it wasn't an experiment! :roflmao:
     
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    I had a crush on a girl, recognised it as a crush, and knew, even without having kissed or dated a girl.
    By the time a girl kissed me, I was pretty sure... and if I'd had any doubts, they disappeared pretty quickly.
     
  12. sophiab

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    I developed feelings for a girl at school and also just never felt attracted to guys like my other female friends were. I denied it at first and experimented with guys, which I felt super uncomfortable with, until I finally admitted to myself that I'm a lesbian and even though I've never had a girlfriend, I can't see myself with anyone else but a woman. I just know deep down!