i have known i am transgender for 5 years now and have only told 6 people within the last month. im at the point where i feel like i'm ready to tell my parents but im really scared to do so. im fairly certent that my mom will be ok with me, but im mostly positive her feonsay will not be okay with it. and furthermore i don't see my dad anuoth to know how he will feel about it. please help. PS im not that good at spelling.
well i think you should do it when you feel ready, also if you think your mom would be ok with it then tell her or do you think she would tell your dad?
ah i see, ok well when you're ready sweetie <3 in the end its up to you. personally when i told my mom she just said "ok well lets get you some diff clothes then" lol anyway i can help you best i can and i hope so will the others here <3
Congratulations on coming out to your friends Well its your decision what you say... some people advise to have some kind of support network... if you want to talk to someone in person, you could call here: Trans Lifeline - (877) 565-8860 - Transgender Hotline GLBT National Help Center there are people there who might give you hints, and support... (if you have a mobile using that might be better) and you might take part on EC... Many people now say being transgender is biological. Theory has it it has to do with brain development before birth. So its neither your nor their fault. This is a brochure for the british national health service, a very reputable source : http://www.gires.org.uk/assets/DOH-A...xperiences.pdf They talk of it having biological causes. meaning its not just a whim ... (What I do not like is on page 7 talking about stress... many experience relief...) You might tell that your gender is only part of you, that you will still be the same and that you will be like your male/female twin... and you might describe your disphoria... Some Moms might be a bit more accepting, because they might kind of win someone they can talk to and do things with concerning emotional stuff. You might tell you're more interested in that. You might say you don't like this manly stuff, its just not who you are. There is no use in trying, and its not their fault. Now well, they might be afraid what neighbours think... but you could say its really who you are, and there are many people like you. Here are some more resources: I'm kind of In fact, quite a few people are trying first to fulfill and even overfulfill gender roles until they simply find out its not them. Its only some representation in the media that all people knew from early on. Some people use a letter. If you want, you could post a draft of yours here, asking for advice. Here is a draft letter: http://emptyclosets.com/forum/coming-out-advice/165521-trans-coming-out-letter-draft.html you might say you want some counseling, with a gender therapist... someone experienced in that matter... they might help you along the process... Just keep on... and relax... we all hope everything will be fine Just ask if you haven't understood something, or if you have questions... hugs (*hug*)
if she tells your dad, will that take off some of the pressure? and if you don't see him that often, maybe it won't really affect you so much no matter how he reacts. good luck.
