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Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by ForNarnia, Feb 13, 2015.

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  1. ForNarnia

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    So, I just told my friend via message that I'm pansexual. And I'm waiting for her to respond. I've never been more terrified in all of my life.
     
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    Waiting for the response is one of the worst parts of the coming out process. Try to keep yourself occupied, and hopefully she will respond soon :slight_smile: Do you think that she will react positively?
     
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    Her sister is a lesbian, so I'm sure she'll be fine, but I'm shaking right now :/ Me and her are always making jokes about being in a relationship, and I don't want her to feel awkward because she thinks I'm hitting on her
     
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    Listen to me now. Just calm down. Put down your phone or turn off your computer or whatever and just have a bath, watch a movie or find any other way to relax. Trust me when I say this: waiting for a reply after sending big news will only make you more nervous so stop what you're doing and check your messages tomorrow. Good luck :slight_smile:
     
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    AAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHH!!!!! :grin: :grin: :grin: :grin:

    She messaged back!!! She says she's totally fine with it :slight_smile:
    She asked me to remind her what Pansexual means so she doesn't get it wrong in the future, and now she's trying to set me up with girls who've had crushes on me in the past :wink: Yes!!!
     
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    Congratulations! :grin:
     
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    I haven't cried for two years... well, I'm crying now :slight_smile:
     
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    That's awesome! I'm glad that she is supportive :slight_smile:

    Congrats!!
     
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    Congratulations :slight_smile:

    (*hug*) (&&&)
     
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    When I told her that I'd been meaning to tell her for a year, she put this;-
    A year? Wow, how did you keep it on so long?
    You know you could have told me!
    It's me!
    I'm fine with everyone:stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
    You should have a coming out party.
    But couldn't you tell that I knew something because I kept saying about girls and stuff...deep down I knew something was going off with you, I knew you were hiding something from me, I just didn't want to pry
     
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    Congrats! :grin: :grin: :grin:
     
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    I'm really happy she was so supportive. I remember that anxious wait so well, in fact I even felt that nervous telling another lesbian lol!
     
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