I've been really making strides over the past year. I would say I am generally at peace with myself, I've been seeing a theraist, I'm hoping to start a medical transition within the year, I started going to local trans support meetings. The first meeting I went to, I mentioned not being out to my parents yet. I got a unanimous response: "they already know". I was sort of taken back by that suggestion. I've been dressing in guy's clothes for a few years now, but I never pass, and I was told I dress "androgynously" on multiple occasions, or that I could dress "more masculine" if I want to be perceived that way. I've been cutting my hair short for ages - it hasn't grown past my shoulders in over half a decade. But a lot of female individuals dress neutrally. Could that really be enough for them to know something's up? I did get identified as a transboy before once, at a club - I was told I was obviously not a lesbian (which doesn't stop most people, including my dad, from deciding I must be a lesbian). I feel like the fact that my dad asked me at all is a pretty clear indicator that he knows something's up, but I don't see him understanding this. I really don't see either of them understanding this, and I have a hard time believing they might already know I don't identify as female. Has anybody ever come out as LGBT only to find out their parents already knew?
I'm about to talk to one of my parents about it. I know that my mom asked me in the not-so distant past if I was gay (because I don't like dating in general) as a half-joke. My answer was "No!", but I think she still suspects it.
I think people are more likely to assume lesbian than trans. Everyone thinks I'm a lesbian, and my parents both thought I was before I came out, despite me never showing any interest in women.
Same here. Both my mom and my sister asked if I was a lesbian at some point before I came out :eusa_doh: If you don't pass well, it's likely that your parents would suspect you're gay, just because people aren't as aware of transmen compared to "butch" lesbians.
