Hey, so there's this guy in my youth group who just came out to us as bi over the summer. I think he figured out he's gay but I don't know for sure. Anyway, he's still pretty like religious and stuff and I've been wanting to talk to him. I really want to but at the same time I don't. Like I know he understands and he would be a great resource but I'm just torn. I never really see him but I was thinking about just sending him a message over facebook chat. I don't even know what to say though. Over the summer, he trusted myself and everyone else in the group with this and I trust him (not so much everyone in the group) enough, I just don't even know how to tell him. It's so frustrating. Advice?
Hi misterkawhat, I would say the best thing is to build up a friendship with this guy and get to know him first, before you come out to him. If you do that, you can maybe get some trusted advice, but also a valuable and hopefully a great and a supportive friend. Hope this helps?
Okay, all it comes down to is if you are close enough with to share anything including this, then it shouldn't be a problem.
the third person i came out to was bi and i never really saw her either, so i just sent a fb message saying im bi then a bi flag written in hearts underneath, she was really supportive and happy to know that i came out to her.
Alright, I did it! I sent him a paragraph, but he'll be okay with that. I just hope he responds soon because he wasn't online when I sent it and the suspense is killing me ---------- Post added 21st Feb 2015 at 08:42 PM ---------- Update: he responded! We exchanged numbers, because apparently we didn't have them haha. I am so relieved, I don't know why I was nervous about it but I'm relieved. Now, I have someone my age going through the same thing that I can talk to in person or through text about this.
Well, i would get to know him better. I've came to my friend only because i knew him really well. Good luck
