Told the parents

In spite of the anger, it sounds like things are going to be okay. In fact, it might even bring you closer to your parents. Just don't stop talking to them about it.

 

In my opinion, you shouldn't have been that angry to your parents. They are your parents and your sister' parents too. They have the right to worry about you and your sister because they love you.
Put yourself in your parents' shoes and think about it.
Anyways, congratulations.
Your parents are good people.

 

My aunt reacted that way when i told her, I am very close to my aunt, like a second mother. The old saying is hate the sin, love the sinner. Although i don't agree with that philosophy, especially because i am no longer religious, it is good that they are still at least speaking to you. Maybe some day they will come around.
Amanda

 

Sorry to hear it had to go down that way, but glad for you that it's over with...

 

granted... but comeon who screams rape after a couple of boys sleep round. It's not really one of those assumptions that most jump to.

Although a big well done to you Dave, glad you're finally out to your rents. To be honest this is one coming out story i've been trying to follow quite closely... and I hope that although things are currently a little edgey with the parents, that they'll eventually warm to the reality of it.

Well Done!

 

Well I'm pleased it's finally out in the open. Perhaps not the best way to do it, but then I couldn't see you doing it any other way any time soon.

Keep the conversation alive but don't force it excessively. Hopefully your bro will help them understand better when he chats to them too. Seeing that he is cool with it could help them accept that it is not such a big deal.

Please keep us updated.

Take care mate. (*hug*)

 

I just can't understand why some people believe being gay is a choice... Who in their right mind would choose it?!
Anyway congratulations, hope I have the courage to tell the parents soon.

 

OMG!!! This is really great, no matter how it happened. It sounds like your anger had no effect on the way they dealt with the information, so it sounds like it's just a blessing that it got out. No matter how much better things get, it's already better.

Congrats! :eusa_clap

 

hahaha no kidding

 

Way to be brave, Dave. Sounds like it wasn't the ideal reaction, but a reaffirmation of love from your parents is always a great thing.

 

Congrats, that's so great that you finally told them, even if it wasn't under the best circumstances :icon_wink still, at least you don't have to pretend anymore.

 

hey young man, what a way to go! I can understand your anger at the time. Like the others at least you know your family love you. And hey, you were born Gay. For those who believe in God, I say God created each of us as we are, gay, bi or straight. I'm over 50 and my parents are almost 80, so I'm not going to tell 'em. I might tell my sister one day soon. I'ts harder for me because of my age and that i'm married too!! But hey man, keep talking and listening. Remember, you don't have to agree with them, but communication is the way to go. good luck, Paul

 

Hey mate - well, it might not have been the best way - but it certainly got the message across.

I'm guessing they'll get used to it...hehe...maybe you should introduce them to beckyg - after all, she's been there, done that, come out the other side etc.

More seriously, I hope your Bro will "tune them in" to the realities of the situation. It might make them think a bit when they realise you were able to tell the rest of your family - but not them - and the reasons why.

I'm wondering if repeating the "if it was a choice, who the hell would choose it" comment might also make them stop and think.

Hope it all goes well from here on in - fingers crossed and all that. (*hug*)

 

Wow! Congratulations Dave on finally coming out to your parents (!) . Seems like that was always simmering in the background. That gives you 10 points. We’ll give you a minus 5 for not following your own advice about not coming out in anger :tantrum: . Then again, with the setup you were given by your mum, who could resist? I’m sure I would have blurted it out the same way. Now it’s time for you (with your brother’s help) to educate your parents (about this “choice” thing and morality).

Given your intellect and wit, your parents must be fairly smart :icon_wink . Give them a chance to get used to the idea and they’ll be just fine. And next time you’re having the guys over, you might even get their blessing.

Hope all goes well. You might also mention the good work you’ve been doing at EC . That ought to knock them for a positive loop.

 

Ah yes, and you should be ready to answer the question, "Was one of them your boyfriend???" Or the less dignified question, "Who slept with whom?" :eusa_doh:

That should open up an entirely new can of moralistic worms.

 

I’m happy for you! :eusa_clap

I just hope that, since your folks jumped straight to the thought of them raping your sister:dry: , they don’t blame you for having your friends over to have your own “relations”, with your sister in the house:eusa_doh: .

Good luck
WW(*hug*)

 

(*hug*)

Just hang in there...hopefully they (especially your Mum) will get used to the idea eventually...

 

that would be my parents first response. it sounds like your parents havent gotten past you being gay yet to even consider this.

but im happy for you, good job