Right now I'm out as a "label hater" who doesn't care about gender to a few people. That's actually a huge lie. I care about labels way too much and I prefer women. I'm just super terrified of being bi. If I'm going to be bi I might as well pretend not to have a preference. When I tell people I hate labels or don't care about gender they push me to date guys. Same shit I went through when I was out as bi. Is it bad that I'm doing this?
Its not bad that your "lying" to other people. As long as you don't lie to yourself and say "self, you hate labels" when you know you don't. If you start lying to yourself then it would be bad. People all take there own journeys to come out. There is no right way to come out. There is no wrong way to come out. Just be yourself. The people who stick by you are the people who are your true friends and family. You don't have to pretend to be something your not for the sake of other people. If you want to you can! Good Luck with your journey, your doing great! Best of wishes ~Aidan
I'm also a bit of a label hater, but that's mainly because my label isn't the same as most people's. Also, it's a bit scary having to "choose" a label. I also care way too much about labels and I'm constantly afraid of having come out as the wrong one. It's just all a bit irreversible. So take your time and don't force yourself to decide right now. Maybe you could just say you don't feel the need to find a label. Though personnally, I'm way more comfortable with one. Or you could just say you're bisexual or pan, that's what you say on EC, so maybe telling other people would be a good thing. I'm not you, so I can't know why you say you're a label hater. It's fine, but it seems you're lying to yourself, and I'd say being true to yourself and others around you would be a healthier alternative.
they can push you all they want, but you can always respond "no thanks, I'll find my own dates." Labels are bad when they force us into a box that's too small for us; but when we want to wear a label with pride, we should just do it.
I'll try that. My sexuality is sooo annoying. I sometimes feel like I might be attracted to guys, but I get totally turned off by the way they treat me. I often question my gender when I'm interacting with guys. They always seem to think that I'm someone I'm not. I'm trying to figure out if I'm experiencing gender dysphoria or if I'm just gay. If I'm actually bisexual, I really need to figure out why I feel like absolute shit when I do anything romantic or sexual with guys and they're hitting on me.
