I'm feeling a lot more confident with my identity, and I want to come out. However, there are some (like my family) who want me to stay in the closet. My question is, should I just adopt a to-hell-with-it approach, and just go "yeah, I'm trans*"? My school is somewhat more accepting than most places, but there is a bunch who think it's weird. Also, there's the fact that my parents would probably go ballistic if they found out. Plus, these people have known me for two years as a guy. I'm not exactly sure what to do...
I think it really depends on what YOU want. Do you want to risk the harassent? Is that lesser in the face of self-libertion? Would it be better for people to know, because it's an iportant thing to your identity? How severely would your family react? If you think they'd kick you out, I'd suggest keeping it under wraps a while longer. In the end, the choice is yours, but the circumstances aren't... Weigh your options and do what will be best for you in the longrun. I hope it works out, 'cause I know it can be reallllly difficult.
If you think there's a chance your parents could seriously reject you, don't come out until you're not in any way dependent on them. You could definitely start by coming out to a few friends. You could likely come out at school and still keep it a secret at home, if that was something you wanted to do. If you think your parents will accept you at least enough not to kick you out or something drastic like that, you could come out to them if you're up for dealing with their reactions, but that might not be worth it.
