Thought id ask. Well, I'm a 26 yr old woman with 2 kids who has been married for 2 yrs but with the same guy for 14 yrs. I met him when I was 12 and we have been together since. I sometimes wonder if we are together so long because it is the 'norm' and society loves a young love story? I am not sure if I am attracted to women in a relationship way or just a sexual way. I find lesbian porn very exciting and things that are out of the ordinary (just posting on this forum is exciting for me because it's 'out of the norm') I have kissed girls before but never anything further due to having always been in a relationship but I have also kissed guys over the years so not quite sure what I feel. Any idea what questions I could be asking myself or things I could be doing to help me? I'm worried because I have 2 fairly Young children that i should just 'suck it up' and appreciate with what Ive got. Thought? Xx
Ah this is hard to answer. Have you had these feelings for a very long time, about women that is or are they fairly new? Have you taken the Kinsey scale test? That may be a good start, you can google it and answer a few questions to get a response. But like any theoretical test I think there are always some grey areas. I don't think you need to "suck it up" I think it is better to be honest with yourself no matter what is going on in your life. You only live once, right?
First, Welcome to EC! Secondly, although starting long lasting relationships young is often romanticized in society, it comes with far greater risks than starting relationships in adulthood. People are constantly evolving and changing. This is why the average person cycles through so many different friendships in their lifetime. Feeling as though we have an obligation to maintain a specific relationship in our life and structure our futures alongside another human being can force us to restrict our growth. There are certain people who will find themselves completely satisfied with a relationship that they began in adolescence; however, those who begin to doubt whether the relationship that they began a decade ago is still meant to be will always doubt. They will always obsess over what else is out there and whether they are living a fulfilling life. You need to end this relationship; not because you might not be completely heterosexual, but because you are simply not content in it. The situation would be no different if you wanted to end things to pursue other men. Half of children these days are raised by parents who are no longer together. Children will be happy and content if they are raised by parents who are happy and content. Attempting to maintain a traditional lifestyle rather than living a life that prioritizes finding satisfaction will only set a poor example for them.
Great advice! Let me just say these are things I am personally struggling with and literally am still trying to figure them out! Nicely put too. Oh and I am from a divorced family (both parents remarried) and it actually gave me the best life possible. If it wasn't for my parents divorce I would of possibly become a delinquent, drug abuser, or not of gone to college or finished high school. So let me just say divorce, although many people think it has adverse affects on children's development, can have the best possible outcome.
Do not do anything you will regret doing or not doing, but if ypu never do anything you couod potentually regret, you will never do anything.
