Ok, so I decided I was going to test coming out by doing it as a early April fools prank. I sat down in starbucks and told my nephew "we need to talk. _____, I'm gay." His immediate response was Him:I wish I was recording you Me: you really think I'm joking? Him...let's call ____ (nephew who lives 2500 miles away). Me: what? Your just completely ignoring me coming out? Him: let's call ____ (he said the same thing again) Me:........April fools.... That's how it happened. I'm so confused. I didn't know what to do. Later I played it up and said "Now that I'm out we can watch rupauls drag race together....I'm on season 6 and I hear Courtney is so beautiful." Guess what? He said "let's call _____" again..... It was probably a stupid move to make anyway..... Do you think I should just act like I'm out now? Or do I just go back in? Dx Was that denial?
Sorry for the short reply earlier I was on my cell phone! Now that I'm at the computer I can type a bit faster! So I think you should clarify that you weren't joking. Maybe say "Remember the april fools joke I played on you the other day, well it wasn't a joke, I was being serious." And them go with the flow from there
We are the opposite in that when I have something I want to say really bad I tend to blurt it out. I mean I have a social filter but sometimes I could hold back a little more. Probably because I spend a lot of time alone, which I enjoy, but when I see people I literally can't shut up haha. Good luck!!
I can totally see why you'd try to gauge your nephew's reaction on April Fool's Day, as you have the whole "April Fools!" excuse to use if he reacted negatively. Unfortunately, he's probably a little confused about how to react. If he had any suspicions already, they might have been confirmed, but the fact you've said it's a joke means that he's not sure if he can take it seriously. In some ways, I guess it backfired in that sense because you're none the wiser about how he'd react if he knew for sure that you were serious. Knowing your family situation, I would tread carefully if he wants to get other members of your family involved - from what you've told me, they're not the most accepting bunch of people in the world. On the plus side, at least you've laid the groundwork for the future - as others have said, you could clarify at a later date that it wasn't a joke. He may have picked up on that already, and if that's the case he could use that time to come around to the idea. Ultimately, if you want to come out now and tell him straight (look a pun!) once and for all, that's totally your decision! However, considering your family situation, make sure you stay safe.
He did not freak out, so I would wait until there is some reason to act "out" and do so. If he questions you, you can just confirm that you were coming out on April 1 as a joke to confuse the issue, but that you really meant it. If he were going to be upset about it, he would have done it the first time, as soon as you said it, so he is probably cool with it, and in any event, you have been open and honest with him.
