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Feeling kinda overshadowed by my sister

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Void Puppy, Apr 5, 2015.

  1. Void Puppy

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    So for context, my sister is a year older than me. We've always been extremely close friends. She's extremely liberal (despite our not-so-much parents) and has always been outspoken about LGBT rights, ect.

    A few months ago we were texting. Somehow the conversation lead to LGBT stuff (I forget the specifics). I felt that this was a good time, so I admitted to being bi. She basically said "cool", and then proceeded to tell me that she was as well!

    I was extremely surprised, and we both sorta dropped the conversation. She's brought it up a few times but we both keep it low because of our parents.

    I guess what I'm saying is that it almost made my coming out to her feel insignificant, which I suppose is a good thing. I think mostly it just felt really strange.

    Anyone else ever had this happen?
     
  2. MathMan

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    Hey, I can relate to this. When I was 15 through 17 my aunt and some other family me members basically knew I was gay from my internet usage. From that time until about 3 years ago I've had serious self hatred and have been in denial of my feelings.

    Well, may of 2012, when I was in drug. Rehab I came out to myself and my counselor,and about a year and a half later I came out to my aunt and family. They basically said "we know, it's fine" and I wanted to just scream because this had been a huge struggle for most of my life and their reaction felt so...underwhelming and not as dramatic as I had pictured lol