For people who have done so did you feel bi sexual when you came out as bi or did you know you where gay or where you unsure ?
When I was younger I came out as bi because I wasn't entirely sure about the opposite gender. I was sick of being closeted and I didn't want to say I was confused. I'm still in the same situation. It's just impossible to come out as bi without people pressuring you to date the opposite gender or ask awkward questions.
I've dated and had sex with guys, but I don't feel a strong sexual attraction to men. I've never had a relationship or sex with another girl, but I'm definitely sexually attracted to them. In my case I've known on some level since college, but it took me a long time to stop fighting it, stop being ashamed, and be honest with myself before I could be honest with other people. I consider myself bi because I've always wanted a family and it's what I grew up believing I would do. I want kids. I guess I'm not ruling out any relationship yet...but I've read some people here posting about long, lonely marriages and I don't want to do that to myself or to any potential husband. I have a lot to think about. :eusa_doh:
To date I still haven't told many people, but the few people I have told I originally came out to as bi because it was easier for me, and like sporn said above, I just wasn't 100% sure. I didn't want to just completely jump the fence since I did have girlfriends in the past. The whole girlfriend thing never worked very well and I figured it was just because I was awkward with relationships, not experienced enough, or something. Then I had my first experience with a guy....and well....let's just say it immediately became evident to me why the whole girlfriend thing never really worked out. Because it wasn't ME. I knew from then on that I was gay and definitely not bi. It was soooo hard for me to accept then and I got super depressed for a while. It's still hard for me to come to terms with now but little by little I'm starting to realize it's who I am and who I've always been.
I certainly don't want that either, there's one too many people to testify those lives. In fact, I know of a guy who basically lived his life closeted and came out last year. He's 50. Only now has he started being in a relationship with another guy, and not just sex.
I don't judge people who do this. Well, I try not to. Some celebs have done this. Elton John comes to mind. Ultimately, he opted to be in a relationship with a guy and declared he was gay. On the other hand, Angelina Jolie has identified as bisexual and is together with Brad Pitt. Then, you have late actors such as Anthony Perkins, who was married and had sex with men, from which he contracted HIV and passed away. His marriage was supposedly a good one ... he could have been bi or he could have been gay. It's all over the map and it doesn't matter. Maybe they were (are) or maybe they weren't (aren't). We'll never know, but it is interesting to think about and people in general are mystified with the topic of sexuality and sexual preference.
Looking for advice on how to come out and be free I thought I was straight Figured out I'm not Now I'm at my crossroads
I was raised with the idea of "girls like guys" and friends in middle school kept talking about guys, so I assumed it was what I wanted. At the time the only men I were attracted to were really bishie type anime characters. I wasn't attracted to men in real life (as it was near impossible to find real men who "passed" as women) so that gave me the "OH" realization.
I knew I was gay when I was 6, but had no word for it back then. When I was 11 things happened to me that made me refuse to acknowledge that fact and I hid it and tried to make myself believe I was at the very least bisexual, as to me that was not "so bad" as there was still a chance I could live a "straight" life. But as of recently I have finally accepted who I was and fully come out as gay, could not be happier about it!
I definitely felt I was bi at the time, but was riddled with doubt and guilt over the significance of my attraction to women. I tried to bury my head over it. Maybe to do with my upbringing, family was pretty homophobic. When I realised/accepted I was gay, I felt a certainty I'd never had when feeling bi. And then I just knew. I say this simply, but the fact is it took years to get to that certainty and emotionally was a messy process to go through.
Im Bi. i used to feel a stronger attraction to ladies when i came out to myself last year but in the past 6 or 8 months the attraction of men is getting/gotten stronger so who's to say what the coming months/years could bring as i evolve. but i feel pretty Bi right now.
