hey there. so, i tried telling my Mum, that I'm bisexual. and...she tried to act like she wasnt bothered... but i know she is. she acctually said "maybe its the company you keep" trying to make out i was copying my friends. (just for the record, i DONT do copying, and im not trying to follow a trend) and she told me i wouldn't know I'd want to kiss a girl until I'd done it... um...yeah i have done it, and i know i want to do it. CHRIST!!! she always does this, puts up barriers, like reasons why I'm wrong and shes right. I never thought she'd understand it, because, she's only ever known straight people. but i at least thought she might try and support me. or at least, believe me. instead, shes acted as if nothing happned. i know she thinks its some adolescent phase. but, to be honest, I've always noticed girls... just i didnt think at first in that way. i thought, it was just me thinking they were pretty... not acctual attraction. since then, ive had a crush on a girl. proof enough? i asked my sister for advice, and she said it would probably be best to hide it. Ive hid it for about a year and a half. i dont think i can hide it anymore. especially since just lately ive been more interested in girls than in guys. so.... any suggestions? and please don't tell me this is a phase, and that my mum totally understands, because she dosent. thanks in advance for any replies. jade xx:icon_bigg
You mentioned that she tried to act like she wasn't bothered. In my estimation, that's a good thing. Sure, it'll take her some time to adapt/learn/come around/accept, but if she's at least making an effort to put a good face on for you, then in my view, that shows that she still cares and just needs some gentle education and time. But, Lex does ask a good question. How long ago did you talk to her?
after i told my mom i was gay she did the same thing she totally was ok but then when i tcame to a gay conversation or bringing over boyfriends she got uncomfotable but she eventually came around
Jade, Your sister has good intentions and sounds supportive but hiding it only makes you miserable. I would go back to your mom (or even write her a letter or e-mail) and tell her exactly what you told us. That you have always been attracted to girls. Hopefully then she will realize its not just a phase and you are serious. You can print off some PFLAG materials to give her at the same time. http://community.pflag.org/Page.aspx?pid=594&srcid=416 Good luck!
If she thinks it's a phase, she might not come out of that too soon. Try telling her that "That may be so, but this is who I am right now, and this is where I'm at. It's been going on long enough that I didn't want to hide it from you any longer. You sould be supporting me and trying to help me instead of making this harder." That's the line I used on my mom, and it seemed to help.
