Terrified.

You didn't ask, "What do you know?" I mean, that would just pop out of my mouth. Maybe you should ask her what she means about that. Then, you'll know for sure what she's talking about. And, rather than have anything hidden from each other, that you both know about, it might be better to get it/them (whatever it is/they are) out into the open so you can talk.

 

Well first you breathe and relax. If she knows, she knows. Everything will be fine. Is there something she could have seen on your computer that would clue her in to your being gay? Like leaving EC open or porn?

 

Your mother might think she knows something about you, but she might be referring to hearing you masturbate, or things you did as a toddler like teething on the furniture. Her comment was a really weird thing for a mother to say. If she says something like that again, I'd just say "For the last time, I didn't kill that guy!"

I wouldn't worry too much about her comment. If she was really concerned about something she knows about you, she would confront you about it. If she doesn't bring it up, you don't have to either. You don't have to come out until you feel ready.

Sometimes I think my sister might know I'm gay, but she's never asked me, and so I don't worry about it. If she did ask me, I'd probably lie and say no. Unless we were somewhere private together, which never happens anyway. Only because I trust she wouldn't tell everyone else in our family. I don't plan on telling my family until I'm independent, and if they have suspicions, that's their own problem until they ask me about it specifically.

Don't worry, I'm sure it's nothing serious. If it was, she's talk to you about it. (*hug*)

 

If she knew and wanted to talk about it then I think she would have said it then, or brought it up later. If you wanted to know, you could always ask her to see if she would tell you what she meant. If she does know that you're gay and didn't act hostile toward you, then I'm not sure why you're afraid that she knows. Why don't you want her to know?

 

That is a really weird comment. But I know this game. She suspects something about something you've done. And by saying something vague like that she knows you'll fill in the blanks. What I would do is call her bluff. Don't say anything until she chooses to elaborate on what specifically she means. This is similar to saying to someone, "I know about that time and I'm going to tell everyone unless you do such and such for me." People say things like that hoping you'll panic and be like "Omg maybe its this, maybe its that." But like I said, call the bluff and remain cool until she says any specifics.

 

I agree with that

I think your mom was just messing with you for a minute. Maybe she just wants you to tell her one of yor secrets. Or maybe she is wrong and you actually know what she knows about you. I think I recall my mom doing that to me a couple of times in the past and I just forget about it but also become more cautious about incriminating things. It may have also helped me to become more paranoid...(thanks mom), but I wouldn't worry about it.

 

My mom pulled that, and all she knew was that I was masturbating.

I'm serious.

 

Bluff call her bluff

or say something like ya right then tell me

 

Well, it really depends on the kind of 'rents you have. She may have read your diary (just an example...) and took something out of context, she might think you are depressed because of a boy, when really it's coming out as gay troubles.

ya know... she might have caught on, she might be way off base. only one way to find out

 

That makes sense; I havent told my dad yet because I know that even though he will be accepting, it will be an awkward conversation that I'm not ready to deal with yet. Talk to your parents and anyone else you want to come out to only when you're ready.

Have you talked to your mom about what she knows?

 

Does she know? Of course she knows. She knows with as much certainty as she can know without you actually confirming it for her. She's just wanting you to tell her to eliminate that 1 percent of doubt that will exist until you confirm it. My mother said she knew when I was 12, and I didn't come out until I was 25.

Just ask her if one of the things that she knows is that you're gay. She's trying to frame a conversation for you, or at the very least let you know that she knows.

 

If your fine leaving it alone and waiting until she brings it up again, then do just that, but if you start thinking about it a lot then I would say you should talk to her about it.

 

One thing to remember is this. Everybody on God's green earth has secrets. Or, you might say, things you'd rather the world at large not know. So any of us hearing the phrase "I know something about you you think I don't" is going to affect all of us in the same way. We're going to think about that thing, or those things, that we'd rather keep dark, and go "OMG! They KNOW!" And the fact is, maybe they don't. It may be about something utterly unrelated.

It sounded more like a power ploy than a intimation. I'd just try to let it slide, although I can understand if it's difficult to do so.

Lex