Ok, here goes, I am new to all this, I am hoping to find genuine & serious help and advice My son has been in termoil for the last 8year that we know of, he has a routine of going on Drink and Drug Binges disappearing for days then turning up very remorseful feeling angry and sorry for himself all is well for weeks even months then off he goes again he lives in the UK His Dad, lives in abroad with me the stepmum, our relationship with our son is otherwise good, though he had issues with us leaving the UK even though we had spoken to all the children about moving they all said go it will be great. It came out later that he really misses his Dad and never wanted us to go. We have spent the last 8years believing it partially down to us that he goes on these binges and possibly still is however it has now been said that when he disappears he has been sleeping with men taken aback of course, as we had NO IDEA as he has been married 2 kids numerous girlfriends and bits on the side never in a million years would anyone have suspected this from him, He is a regular guy, I am very open & open minded we have discussed many things openly in the past though i am gutted to think he has been tormenting himself for years over this, those close to him in the family who are now aware of his jaunts are not upset not disgusted are all in all totally fine with this - if that how he rolls - so what!!! the only one with a REAL problem with it is HIMSELF so after all the background of this what i want to know is HOW CAN WE HELP HIM FEEL BETTER about the whole situation - you see for me, up until we found out about him sleeping with guys I could not work out the pattern of his behavour now it all falls into place he punishes himself for sleeping with guys - he feels dirty he feel bad he feels wrong - so any serious help or advice on how to progress is greatly appreciated. We still dont understand whether he is straight with urges/tendancies or bi or truly gay it doesnt matter we just want him to stop punishing himself, we have been unable, as yet to speak with him directly since the last episode as he beat is current girlfriend got arrested - released - now in psychiatric hopsital for a month NB: I do not wish to offend anyone with my wording or phrasing this is a whole new world opening up so feel free to put me right if I stray :bang:
