I'm asking for some pretty generic advice here, but if you could give me your thoughts, I'd appreciate it. I recently moved to Korea to teach English. I am absolutely loving Korea, but for some reason, since coming here, I've felt this intense pressure to come out to someone. I didn't feel this much pressure back home, even though I still haven't come out to most of my family. The problem is that if the news got back to my workplace, I'm certain that I would lose my job, which would mean that I'd also lose my apartment and also possibly have to leave the country. I really don't want that to happen, so coming out to anyone (even if they have no relation to my work) isn't an option I'm allowing myself to consider. I just want to ask how others cope with that nagging voice on their head that's pushing them to come out. How do I shut it up, basically? And why on Earth do I all of a sudden want to come out so badly, now that the stakes are higher? I mean, it's not like I even have anyone important to tell here, like I do back home.
I have been lurking around here a lot, hoping to get my "gay fix", but I feel a bit weird talking to my friends from home about it. I guess I just hope the urge goes away so I don't accidentally blurt it out.
I have a very small and select group of gay friends that I share company with. others know they are gay, but those people dont realize I am too... They just think Im very open minded.
*waves* Hey~~~ I totally know what you mean! I haven't come out to my family or too many people except a select few~ I posted about it in a privated (and announced that it was private and this wasn't to be discussed elsewhere on my wall) post on facebook and that was nice, and I talked to one of my close friends here about it, but other than that... it's just me, watching Will and Grace and flopping around on here XD;;;; I think because it's so taboo and "strange" here that the pressure is worse, like OMG NO! YOU LOVE ME AND I'M QUEER <3 QUEER PEOPLE ARE TOTALLY NORMAL, I SWEAR! if you ever need someone to chat with~~~ ^.^ And Seoul and Daegu do Pride events every year as well, so maybe keep a lookout? But, I wouldn't participate personally because I also fear for my job... T.T
Yeah, maybe it's just because I went from being kinda out to being completely back in the closet again. I probably won't go to any pride events either. I am glad to at least talk to people on here who understand, but I really want a friend I can talk to face to face. Finding that friend would be hard though, because I'm not sure who I can trust.
Yeah, I would say be very careful. I had one friend have a friendship end badly and his ex-friend called his school, pretended to be a parent there, and outed him and said he didn't want a gay person around his kids because he'd probably molest them... Thankfully my friend had a really good reputation and had worked there for years and they realized that the person wasn't really a parent, but if he hadn't been extremely lucky, he could've lost his job or worse T.T If you're ever in Daegu~~~ <3
