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Coming Out Letter (need a pep talk)

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Spacetime, May 28, 2015.

  1. Spacetime

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    More than a year after I came out to my parents, I've finally decided to come out to my grandmother. I want to tell her before being open with my extended family because we're close (despite her living far away.) She's very liberal and an open supporter of marriage equality. I know she won't react badly, but I'm still nervous. I've decided to come out to her in an email, and I'm proud that I was able to write this without having an anxiety attack. So, here it goes (currently in a word document titled, "don't be chickenshit," will send it later this week):

    Hi Grandma,

    I’ve been wanting to tell you something for years now. I've wanted to call you and talk to you, but I have always chickened out. I love you and trust you, but I was still nervous. Am nervous. I thought I had to be brave, but I’ve come to understand that I don’t. I just need to be honest. So here it goes: I’m gay. Thanks for reading this. I can’t wait to see you this summer.

    Love,
    [my name]


    Any suggestions? Or, "you can do this"s? (Both are very much appreciated.)
     
  2. YuriBunny

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    You can do it! ^.^ ^.^ I believe in you~! I came out to my parents in a letter. Much better than trying to get the words out face to face, lol. ^^
     
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    It seems fine to me. It's short 'n sweet and gets right to the point. I'm sure you'll do just fine and I wish you luck. :slight_smile:
     
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    Go for it! The only thing stopping you is yourself, NOW TELL YOURSELF TO GET OUT OF THE WAY SO YOU CAN DO IT!
     
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    I love it!! Best wishes xx
     
  6. Spacetime

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    Thanks everyone! :icon_bigg She replied:

    "Can't wait to see you and [sister's name] and mom this summer. (4th of July). Glad you figured it out....love you always."
     
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    You did do it. Well done and nice response back. :slight_smile:
     
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    Yay, congrats~! ^.^
     
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    congrats on it going so well~
     
  10. AngelaIvyBloom

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    That's beautiful. You said it beautifully. If she doesn't understand I'm so sorry, but you have to be true to yourself.
     
  11. Spacetime

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    Thank you very much everyone! :icon_bigg Posting this on here first really gave me the push I needed to just get it over with.

    Thank you so much for your kind words! Her response was positive. Feeling very lucky to have the family I do.