I had one of the worst dreams last night. that I was outted it as trans by some one in my family. the point is that it did not go so well. and as I been lately I would say pretty stress out. like I said no one knows I'm trans if they do I lose them as a friend's. and I'm still not out to the family about it. even thought I've been wearing boy's clothes it just shock me that I had that dream. cause it's not like my parent's are not ok with who I am. I just don't know what if that dream was some kind a red flag?.
I don't think a dream is a red flag, unless you are a prophet. Are you feeling anxious about coming out maybe? Have you told you anyone in real life that you are trans? You said if you tell your friends you are transgender you will lose them, but what makes you so sure about that? Maybe if you told one of your close friends it might lift some of the burden. Sorry you are feeling bad right now. Hope things improve for you soon! (*hug*)
maybe your right. I'm trying too stay calm cause that's the best I can I do but anyways I've lost all of my middle school friends. when I got to high school nobody want it too talk to me. collage people did not really understood were I was coming from with the whole trans thing. that is a tough one. my only friend now are my mom and my grandma. i'm scared.:eusa_doh: thank for caring enough to reply
I was outted in a dream yesterday. Well, it's largely because I'd been watching this anime with two trans kids... It was the first time preesnting full female publicly. It went kind of well though if I can remember correctly. Don't let bad dreams get you down! People can surprise you on your journey, both for better and for worse. Some people I thought would be like 'whaaaa?' but were really great, and some (or one) person are officially supportive but keeps hurting me with pronouns etc. It's a very special journey we're on! Remember you're not alone. One day we'll look back and it'll all be worth it. For now try to focus on the progress you make and take it day by day. Stay close to those who are by your side. And we're here too!
I've lost (most) of my childhood friends for one reason or another as well, and the ones I'm still friends with are more like "pen pals". It's a lot more common then you might think, even a lot of straight people have trouble making/keeping friends. I know because I present myself as straight, and also from having other people tell me they've lost friends. When you make some really good friends, they won't care about how you identify yourself or who you are attracted to. You could also try joining and LGBT group, as I'm sure people there will be understanding. Generally speaking, how do your mom and grandma feel about transgender people? Or LGBT people in general? If they seem pretty cool with it then it's probably safe to tell them, and might make you feel better. It might take them some getting used to though. And even if they seem upset, I'm sure they'll still love you no matter what. But only you can tell when it's the right time to tell them, and if you don't feel comfortable yet, maybe it's best to wait, or at least try and scope things out. Maybe bring up the subject of transgender people and see what they say.
Dreams show your repressed fear. In my dreams, my dad and brother discovered my gay porn vids, that was scary! (((( Yay for incognito.
thanks for replying I.D have to do some research and see if I can find a local LGBT group. they are alright with gay people. I don't know how they would react toward the trans thing . I don't know cause my mom does like too judge but it's not the fact that the person is trans. I guess I would say that she too full of her self. cause I mean I did try to tell her. then she ended up saying this today at work I met this young lady that lost her phone she want it me to call her a man when she clearly look like a woman she said this to me I don't care what you wear but let's get something straight just because you wear boy clothes that don't make a man that crush me. :dry: my grandma would not care who I am she'd still love me ---------- Post added 15th Jun 2015 at 08:35 PM ---------- sorry too hear that one day my brother and dad walk in on me one day while I was watching gay porn I was looking up something else I kind a got caught up in to the moment when was looking up something I was like o m g why is he doing that to him soon as I try to turn it off they both came straight in like o m g can you knock
They're rare, but yeah, I've had a few dreams over the years where I've been outed as gay (and even admitted it) to family (usually the family member is my mother)...but in those dreams after admitting I usually follow it with saying something along the lines of "it doesn't matter anyway since I won't be around much longer now" One time after having one of those such dreams...later in the night I had a separate (but related/connected) dream where I came back as a ghost.
Dreams are often what you were thinking about before you fell asleep. Before I came out to my mom, I had a dream that told her about my sexuality but she didn't believe that I could possibly know and rejected my coming out. I had been planning to come out to her soon and was feeling nervous, prompting me to think of the worst possible case-scenario. When I came out to her, she accepted without questioning it at all. I think you are doing the same thing. Your anxiety about coming out is causing you to think of the worst possible outcomes, over and over, subconsciously or not. When you fell asleep, those images stayed in your mind, causing you to dream about what you are afraid will happen. I don't believe it is any sort of sign. Ignore your dream and be optimistic.
That sound like a very interesting dream thanks for sharing your story with me ---------- Post added 15th Jun 2015 at 09:17 PM ---------- maybe I'D write my mom a letter of these feelings
I think a letter is a great idea! Then you can get your feelings across clearly. Also, if you think your grandma would understand, I'd maybe tell her first. That way she can back you up! Good luck!
Dreams can be meaningless. However, they can also contain great meaning. It's entirely possible that this dream is actually trying to point something out to you. This is especially likely if you are a) a person who has psychic phenomena in your life b) your dreams seem to typically have meaning c) It is a recurring dream
