So my mum recently asked me if my index finger is longer than my anular finger, i found that question pretty weird but i checked and said that my index finger was longer anyways. When i asked her why she asked me that she just said it wasn't important. After, i looked it up and found many sites like wikipedia (https://en.wikipedia.org/?title=Digit_ratio#Correlation_between_digit_ratio_and_traits) that stated that homosexual men have longer index fingers than anular fingers. I really don't know what to do. She also keeps asking me if i find any girls in my class attractive and i just say that i'm not really interested in no one, but she insists there's a girl i like but i'm just hiding it. And that's almost true because i really like a guy in my class and i'm pretty positive he's gay too. Does this mean she thinks i'm gay? Because i'm totally not ready to come out to my parents. Also sorry if my english isn't perfect i'm not a native english speaker.
Not sure that's true. Also wearing earrings in your left ear makes you gay too. Did you not get that in your instructional manual for being gay? No really though, did you ever do anything to lead her to believe you are gay? Did you like look up porn and she found it or a magazine under your bed? Mothers ask if there are any girls their sons like because it's the norm. What's her stance on lgbt stuff? You ever ask or get a sense? Doed she ask questioningly and carefully or is it probing and hostile? Sometimes you just have to feel it out.
Well, now that you make me think about it, i watched a lot of coming out videos lately and she could have seen some in the reccommended section of youtube. And no, i never talk about lgbt related stuff with her or anyone else but my best friend for that matter. I'm pretty scared of their possible reaction. For example a couple days ago there was a gay pride in Rome and it was on the news, my parents changed channel almost immediately. Here in italy everyone is homophobic to a certain degree so i'm used to hear my parents say "faggots" when they see gay couples or something lgbt related on TV. She is not hostile when she asks but the way she does feels kinda weird. Next year i'm planning to come out to all my classmates at my high school and my family. Any ideas on how i can prevent her from keep asking in the meantime?
Umm...my ring finger is longer, and I'm as queer as can be. It's a flawed theory. However, finger length has been linked to a lot of things, including promiscuity, autism, how nice you are likely to be, and prostate cancer: https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200506/sexuality-your-telltale-fingertips They can plot as many graphs as they want to, but you are what you are, regardless of what you're supposed to be. Next, your mom knew you were gay when you were in third grade. Some moms stay in denial and build up delusions, justifications, rationalizations, and all the other schizo-affective style mental constructs, but I can assure you, whether they admit it to themselves or not, they know. The fact that she is drilling you on the topic means she's trying to spur you to come out. It's not her business when you come out, even though she is your mom. Coming out is one of the most personal things you'll ever do, assuming you ever choose to come out at all. You don't have to. You can choose to stay in the closet forever. I'd privately think you were nuts, but I can't make your choices for you. Just be patient with her, and take your own time.
Your mom thinks you are probably gay, for some reason she is not saying to you; perhaps she is sensing your interest in the boy you are attracted to and assuming that you are thinking about a girl. It may be just some subtle things she sees you doing or not doing, such as you not dating girls, or it could be something more solid she found that has her convinced that you are, and she is just asking for confirmation. Whichever it is, she is not going to be terribly surprised when you decide to tell her the truth. She may be disappointed, but not totally surprised. IF she has found some solid evidence, such as things you may have written, then she may feel that you are lying to her with your denials, but it does not sound like it is that, from what you are saying. Can you prevent her from asking if you are gay? No, but you can lie about it and ask her to stop bugging you about it. Then have to eat your words later, making it that much harder for you to come out later. Or you can come out before you are really ready. Neither is a great choice. Best wishes for you, as you try to figure out what you want to do. (*hug*)
Yeah i've never been with a girl so she's probably questioning. I just had to talk with someone, i came out just to my best friend last year but after that we've never really talked about it, i always feel awkward when i try to talk about lgbt related stuff with him. Now by talking to someone i feel way better thank you. No i think that if i don't come out in my teen years i'm going to waste an important part of my life. I'm going to wait next year when i'll turn 16 so my parents can't say i'm just confused or that is just a phase, since i knew i was gay since fourth/fifth grade. I'm already trying to build up the strength i'll need and i hope their reaction will be good.
