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Feeling lighter and feeling regret at the same time.

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Feln, Jun 27, 2015.

  1. Feln

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    As the title says I've recently (last night) came out to two of my friends on a party. I drank a bit, but I have my self-awareness and I now I felt 100% sober... The thing is they were realyl awesome, supportive as I wouldn't even expect, I told them how alone I feel and that I expect no-one to ever love me the way I want to love someone.
    I felt much better, but why do I feel regret?
    It was the same when I was forced to come out to my mom... But on the other hand when I first come out, to my friend I wasn't feeling this way.
    I'm confused, this post is probably big mess, just as I am... Urgh... I can't resist not saying this to anybody. Sorry...
     
  2. Abdadhie

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    I went through the same thing as you. I felt really weird after coming out at the same time as coming free. For me it just faded. As more people found out and it became the 'norm' I eased my way into life being out.

    I think the reason I felt like that was because I (deep down) felt that maybe my friends didn't really accept me, I was still worrying about it. It took a while before I realised that they really couldn't care less and so I stopped feeling regret.

    Another thing that really helped was 'talking it out' with someone. Its good to just let it all out. Try someone like a friend or a councillor. Being out it to let it all out is a great thing. It feels better in the end.

    I hope I helped, all this stuff applied to me, I don't know if it applies to you, I just hope it helps.Good luck man, It will all get better in the near future!!!
     
  3. Feln

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    Yes you did, thanks :wink: I hope it will get better, because I feel literally like crap now, haha.