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Came out to a friend while drunk

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by fxngirl, Jun 28, 2015.

  1. fxngirl

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    So last night I drank A LOT, and furthermore I had bad thoughts in my mind before -I have a huge exam in three days and I'm really worried, plus my secret about my sexuality- so at some point I just burst in tears. And, basically, while I was crying I came out to one of my closest friends.
    I feel like shit now, because I didn't wanna come out like this. Has this happened to any of you?
     
  2. guitar

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    The first time I came out I was drunk as well. My friend was also drunk and is gay. How did your friend take it? Is there any part of you that thinks she'll use this against you, or is she supportive of lgbt rights and issues?

    Do you think part of you was really yearning to come out?

    The first time coming out is an incredibly nerve wracking experience, especially if you're not ready. Hopefully your friend is cool with it & sorry you're so upset over this. (*hug*)
     
  3. fxngirl

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    Luckily my friend was very supportive, and I was planning to come out to another friend in a few days so this only accelerated the process.
     
  4. Michael

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    Yes, it happened to me too and I can understand how you feel.

    Be glad your friend was supportive, mine was shocked.

    Lots of things in life come unexpected, don't give a damn about our own plans.
     
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    Most times I came out at the beginning I was wasted and cried a lot, so you're not alone haha. It's not the perfect way to do it but your friend is supportive so you're all good I'd say