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Is he interested?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by whitefang, Dec 13, 2008.

  1. whitefang

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    Ok so I have been trying to go out with a guy named Bryan, and he is SO dreamy!! :slight_smile:

    He has told me he dose not want a bf.

    I was walking with him on monday and he stepped on my pant leg and ripped them. I said hey you ripped my pants. He then said " you can rip my pants if you want" I only smiled and said no comment.

    Then on wensday we were on the phone and I had asked him why he dosen't want to date and he asked my why I want to date. I said I will tell you if u tell me why u dont. he then told me and so i was about to tell him wen he said that he had about 3 hours of homework. Then we were debating for like 10 min. over me. I said U should stop talking to me and do your homework and he said he would wait til later after I told him.

    Is he interested in me?
     
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    Based solely on the information given, I'd say no. I've had people say things like "you can rip my pants" (not that specific phrase, of course), and waste time with me over the phone without actually wanting to do anything. He says he doesn't want to date. That should override any other "hints" or "clues" that you might pick up. He might like you. He might even be interested in you. But not now.

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    Yeah, awww. :slight_smile: But he knows you're interested. And that's...how should I put it? I've had guys crush on me that I didn't crush on, but I liked the feeling, y'know? And you don't want to push them away or anything, but at the same time, anything you say and do can possibly be looked at as "well, maybe he's coming around". So it's a tough balancing act.

    The main thing is this, though. He knows you're interested. If he decides he's interested, he'll let you know. Not by not hanging up when chatting on the phone. It'll be really obvious. :slight_smile:

    Lex
     
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    I wish I knew how he felt bout me!!!
     
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    I wish I had a Ferarri :confused:

    Bottom line, we call want it. Sorry babe, you gotta live with what it given to you. If it doesn't work out --- he's not the one.
     
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    but I want him...
     
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    >>>but I want him...

    [youtube]_vdwbBHmtMc[/youtube]

    Lex
     
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    Very funny
     
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    I know I cant
     
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    Your brain may know, but apparently your heart doesn't. Give it time to catch up. It's a lesson well worth learning.

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    I really like him!
     
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    >>>I really like him!

    This ain't will to power, kid. You can't move the mountain simply because "your desire is strong". He has to like you back. He has to want to date you, too. And right now, he doesn't. He may come around, he may not. But stop fighting it - accept it.

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    Hey may but doen't know how to tell me...
     
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    You have told him outright that you're interested.
    He says he isn't.
    Not just "not given you a sign".
    He's said it point-blank.
    "Believe it, beloved. Believe it."

    Lex
     
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    Sorry dude, he likes the attention but he's really not interested. Listen to the wisdom of the gay gargoyle. he is wise beyond our years. *bows in honor*
     
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    I've noticed you around the forums and I can tell that this means something to you.

    But please, take a step back and ask yourself what you would do if someone was coming on to you as strong as you are to him.

    Personally, I think that you would be all over them if you liked them. You're genuine like that. This guy is not being Genuine with you regardless. And if he does like you, he is eventually going to have to come around to the fact that he is going to have to be true to himself and not keep people at a distance like this.

    You deserve better than to be treated like that.

    If you like him, set him free. If he likes you, he'll come running.

    If he doesn't, then just move on to someone who is actually worth your time.
     
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    nope sorry