Out of necessity I shall have to come out to my father (who I do not like and have no connection with) and his family, and the extended family on that side of things. 1) First, how should I do it? I don't want a major fuss about it. I'm not seeking understanding from him or so, just want to pass on the information and make sure they use my name and pronouns. 2) How do I go about so that the extended family and so on won't make a fuss about it? I hate being the center of attention, or rather, being forced into the center of attention. Thanks all feed-backers <3
Is there a way you can tell him you need to have a serious conversation? Then you could tell him everything you need to, and how he should refer to you. Then maybe tell him you don't want the extended part of the family to know-that it is a private matter. Just making a time to talk is better than any other way to me because the person being communicated to has all their attention on you. Hope I helped at all! Probably not because I don't know TOO much about this stuff
Thanks. Purple Yes, I could tell him "I just wanted to say smoething" or yeah, just make sure he gets I'm serious and not kidding around etc. I probably do want the extended family to know though! I don't want them referring to me with male pronouns or my male name, and I'm close to part of the extended family and at family gatherings and so on I don't want some of them to know but censor themselves. I just don't know how, logistically, to spread the information...
