See title. We could really use one. As much as this should be a happy time for all, much seems to be weighing on many of members of this forum. I propose tackling these issues once so that separate threads started may be for the specifics of a given situation. Possible topics include: - Family get togethers; including subtopics on obnoxious and/or bigoted family members, alcohol, etc. - Coming out during christmas break? Yes/no, does and don'ts - for older members of the forum this may represent the first time in a long time that they can be face to face with family. - General sources of anxiety; new romantic relationships and gift giving (?), shopping, bills, etc. Final note: I would have written up something nice to cover all these topics if I had anything brilliant to say about any of the topics ... but I don't (unless of course, don't throw food or otherwise annoy people welding large knives is new).
I always wonder about if in a few years i had a bf how i would go about bringing him to family events.
I always wondered that too, then one of the people I consider a second mom told me that she didn't want me to bring a future BF to family gatherings, if I got one that is. She claims it's because she'd rather not have her kids asking me questions... when they're old enough, they know what being gay is <_< They're going to high school soon for christs sake lol
Ugh, that's so stupid. I hate that attitude! If they're not taught about homosexuality when they're young, then they'll end up learning about it from stupid teenagers, and think it's a bad thing. And what if they themselves are gay? Urgh.
Yea, i really want a bf >_< ...and when i do get my hands on a man i want to flaunt him not hide him. If its a family gathering, i dont see much of a down-side to bringing your +1 though. If they are not ok with it, then why the hell are you going anyways? If they are ok with it, well then you dont have a problem Granted, i wont be doing this for a few years to come yet i assume.
I was thinking about whether or not I would bring my (hypothetical for now) boyfriend as well. I'm not sure how my family would react if I brought a boy with me to out family Christmas party. I would definitely come out to them before bringing my boyfriend with me so that I knew what they thought about me; I wouldn't go to the party if they were against me being gay, and I really wouldn't bring my boyfriend if they were against it.
