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Is it weird to feel alone?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by justinishere, Dec 16, 2008.

  1. justinishere

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    Is it wrong to feel lonely especially during the holidays? I have not had a boyfriend or a girlfriend, never kissed anyone and just feel like something is missing in my life. Love maybe? Is it wrong to feel like this?
     
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    oh dude no way. being lonely is waaay normal. the holidays just seem to make it worse. i myself has been quite lonely lately
     
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    The fact that you don't have a bf at the age of 15 does not mean something is missing in your life. HSM is NOT how teenagers actually live their life. Nor is it like it looks on TV or in other movies.

    Make the most of what you have today and look forward to your future.

    Feeling lonely is quite natural though. I think if you've come to realize that you're gay and you haven't told anyone yet, then you're naturally going to feel a little isolated. Perhaps those feelings are an indication that it's time to share with the people you are close to that you're gay.
     
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    Way normal!
    I get upset everybody does!
     
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    Its normal, especially for the singles out there like myself. The holidays remind some that we might need someone else in our lives, doesnt have to be romantic though.
     
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    Thanks everyone :slight_smile:
     
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    I feel like this all the time, no worries. Plus, you are only 15, you still have a whole lifetime to find Mr. Right.
     
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    Very normal...... but hay your only 15, you have plenty of time!!!
    Also like some one above mentioned...... not being out will make you feel alone, even with loads of people around you!!!

    You'll be fine...... have a great holiday!
     
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    Yea, its normal, but if your feeling this lonley now it might just get worse.

    I have the same feelings, but im 18 so they are like 500x stronger. It sucks being alone when all you want to do is for someone else to come along and just hug you till you fall asleep at night. Some tips that might help are get a pet if you dont have one! Having a pet is great, dogs the most imo, cause they will NEVER judge you and you can hold em tight (...for the most part...) and feel a little better. You can also try to get out more with friends, that will always help.
     
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    Thanks great tip only thing is I cant have any pets :icon_sad:

    I had a cat but my mom made me take him back to the shelter after I had him after 2 years. RIP Liam :icon_sad:

    And since I just moved to Clovis don't have that many friends. Still labeled the new kid :icon_sad:
     
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    Have a great holidays too! And everyone else happy holidays too!(&&&)
     
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    dude i feel the exact same way
    like everything is in place but theres something not there
    i think for me its that ive never had a boyfriend
    and i feel like im missing out on life
     
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    Absolutely nothing wrong or even unusual about it.
     
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    Very common feeling this time of year. It hits me something fierce.
     
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    I feel exactly the same way. It's actually quite depressing, isn't it?

    Good thing is that you're still young. I should have had SOMETHING by now.
     
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    Isolation is inevitable for our minority. kermit was lucky man, being green ain't that bad. at least it's easy to spot a fellow frog for him. Down here it's different.

    Yeah, I'm lonely too. I'm looking gay people to chill with but I don't want a relationship. Everyone here is so far into the closet you can smell the mothballs and a lot of them just want sex. I'm looking for a FRIEND. NOT A FRIEND WITH BENEFITS... now put your pants back on. Sorry, had to vent. I'm not judging, the just want something I don't right now.
     
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    It's ridiculously normal.

    More so than Valentine's Day.

    The Winter holidays are beautiful time. The media just shows us how imperfect our lives are and how we could make it better by buying their products. Gr.
     
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    Hah, well said. People need to start wearing Rainbow's so i can throw away my broken "Gaydar" *tear*
     
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    Your only 15

    I got first kissed when I was 14 by a girl though
     
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    Thats exactly how I feel! Its just that missing part of myself.... and on life :icon_sad:

    I hear ya! My "Gaydar" never seems to be on:lol: