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The thought of coming out to my family terrifies me...

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by ConfusedHobbit, Jul 10, 2015.

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  1. ConfusedHobbit

    ConfusedHobbit
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    I've already come out as Bi to most of my friends and people at school but the thought of coming out to my family just terrifies me.
    I have no idea how they'll react and if they'll accept me or not. I don't want them to feel like they've failed as parents because they haven't.
    I'm 16 next year and I want to come out before I go to college so if I meet someone I don't have to keep them a secret but I don't know how or when to go about it.
    Hopefully someone can help me with this.
     
    #1 ConfusedHobbit, Jul 10, 2015
  2. YinYang

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    Try telling them about a 'friend' that is bi and is scared to come out to her parents. This is a good way of finding out what your parents think of whatever sexuality you are talking about. Ask them what they think and if they think your 'friend' should tell her parents. Good luck! (*hug*)
     
    #2 YinYang, Jul 10, 2015
  3. Monraffe

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    Feeling uncomfortable is a sign that you aren't ready so I think you should error on the side of caution and give it some more time.
     
    #3 Monraffe, Jul 10, 2015
  4. Posthuman666

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    Don't rush anything, but don't keep it bottled up inside either.

    I actually just came out as trans and pan sexual last night, and it went great. I was so scared, but my parents were very accepting.
     
    #4 Posthuman666, Jul 10, 2015
  5. Kenzi18

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    I think that you should wait until you're 100% ready, otherwise you might regret it. I hope you figure things out!
     
    #5 Kenzi18, Jul 10, 2015
  6. Aspen

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    You could try bringing up some recent news concerning LGBT rights and see how they react to it. It's not a perfect indicator but it might at least give you an idea of where they stand.
     
    #6 Aspen, Jul 11, 2015
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