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First Ever Boyfriend

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Kid Quasar, Dec 17, 2008.

  1. Kid Quasar

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    First things first.... OMG YAY!

    Ahem... let me collect my self :slight_smile:

    Anyways. Today was another boring day at finals. That is, until lunch time came around. I was talking with my BFF about the guy I had a crush on. Well, she pulled out her phone and called him(He is away for a while visiting a relative). I was like :confused: because I didn't know what she was doing. Apparently he had a crush on me all along too, so after she called him, she handed me her phone :confused:. I didn't know what to do, I wasn't expecting it. Well, long story short(Sorta short :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:) I asked him out! YAY! It's like something out of a fairy tale. Everything went smoothly that day. He said yes! :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:

    Anyways, now the problem. I've never asked anyone out before, never dated, nothing. Not even girls, so I have no idea what to do >.< I so wan this to work, but I don't know what to do. Any :help:?
     
  2. justinishere

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    Well can't give you any advice because I haven't either!

    But I am so happy things worked out for you! Have fun with your new boyfriend! :slight_smile:
     
  3. BitterEdge

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    awesome...congrats you're above my step into finding a man...lol good luck.
     
  4. Bryan.

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    same here im kinda wondering myself what to do when i get a boyfriend too
     
  5. Mickey

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    Make the first date simple,then you can have a chance to talk and get to
    know each other. Go out,have coffee or a drink and just sit and talk.
    That's my advice. Whatever you do,good luck and congrats!
     
  6. Bryan.

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    oh yea congratz by the way
     
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    Some people get all the luck dont they? :slight_smile:

    But i'd just stay natural and go with the flow. Things go smoother that way.
     
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    :wow:Congratulations!!!:wow:, but i can't offer any advice, i've never been on a date either and probably wont get to go on one anytime soon or the distant future:icon_sad: oh and by the way you have an amazing best friend, if i had a best friend i doubt he/she would do anything like that for me
     
  9. Kid Quasar

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    Thanks guys! ^^. So, does anyone know what to do? I'm really nervous that I might mess up.
     
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    Nice! Thats really, really great :grin:

    Like the others said, taking it slow is good advice. Casually go to a cafe or such a type of place, get a drink, and just sit and talk. You dont really have to do anything, send him a message with a time and place and just...go with the flow! Im sure when you start talking to the guy nothing else will matter :slight_smile: At least that worked with the fake dates i had with girls haha (yea...im horrible)
     
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    Remember. It's you he likes; so, just be yourself! No need to try to impress him. This doesn't mean dress a total slob (but then again, we're on the same side of the rainbow, we'd never do that).

    Dinner and a movie is always a good first date. Just keep in mind how open your little neck of the woods is. If it's a homophobic area, keep it low-key. Remember, the stares don't go away, we just learn not to care about them.

    Love, and cheers!
    Jase
     
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    Hey, I know you! You're that guy that I know! Grats mewd, Gl on your date and remember what i told you earlier
     
  13. coriolis

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    Wow. Congratulations. That's soooo cool.
     
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    Huge congrats for you on your first bf! :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    lol. just b urself. dont freak out! and remember to breath.
    for ur first date u shud go somewhere u can talk. dont go to a movie cuz u cant get to kno eachother. go out to dinner at a simple restaurant or to lunch on the weekends. or just go for a walk and just talk and buy something on the way. as long as u guys can share ur interests and thoughts. it shud go fine. dont lie about urself it will slap u in the face in the future. just b truthful and if he doesnt lik it then hes crazy and its not meant to b(sorry to b so blunt lol)
    just let thins flow and if it gets awkward mak a joke and laugh for a while and the conversation will pick up again
     
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    CONGRATS! That's great news! :grin: I'm so happy for you.

    Don't rush in pretending to know anything if you don't. Let him know you're a little nervous, whatever you decide to do on your first date. Let him know that you've never dated before, so he's gonna have to be a bit patient, and help you out a little. No reason he shouldn't understand.

    Go for something simple the first time. A nice lunch or dinner somewhere.

    NOTE: I've never dated anyone either, but I think what I said makes sense.
     
  17. Lucky bastard... :dry:

    But I'm so happy for you! ^_^ (!)

    Just be yourself, be honest, all that jazz. Don't be nervous that you're going to "mess up." You know he likes you, so just be the person that he likes- you. Since you like giving advice, think of what you might tell someone else who asked this question. Good luck! :slight_smile:
     
  18. Kid Quasar

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    Thanks guys, you've all really helped. I decided to invite him over to play video games sometime when he gets back from his trip. It's something both of us would enjoy ^^
     
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    aaawwwww congrats!!!! (*hug*)
     
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    aw mood im so happy for you :]
    video games sounds like a good idea
    since your 15 and im sure you cant drive by yourself yet. haha


    now i need to find me a date hmmm ^_^