My family's falling apart... help

oh, sorry man, it sounds so rough!

Sounds like my dad; so stubborn, screams at me to tell me to not scream, when I didn't scream....i don't know, he's weird.
But why was your brother disowned?

 

Well your Dad needs to go to the wedding or he will regret it.

 

I'm sorry. He choked you? Did he say anything about that afterward?

 

Yes choking is very bad, and if he cant grow up and not go get your Mum to go no matter what.

 

Thats bad why does he do that?
Thats just well what can I say to that?
I think you need a "word" with him.

 

Hmm... Does he listen to your Mum?

 

If he continues to hurt you that badly, or worse, you should definetly consult authorities, because an angry father who's abusive can be dangerous. If it comes to that, of course.

 

Hey Coops, first of all *Hugs*

I know you've already said that your dad and brother won't tell you what's going on, but that's what the source of the issue is here. If their not willing to work things out together than it will be impossible to settle things until they talk to someone else. Usually things are said once the initial wave of anger fades, so give it some time. Once this issue is revealed then maybe it will shed some light on what's really behind all of this and perhaps you'll be able to help.

About what your dad did for you; I've had some physical abuse as well, though I have only been choked by an older sister once about two years ago. Physical hurt does horrible things to your psychology, but it's pretty apparent that your dad is incredibly angry. Give him time alone to cool off, don't play with fire at it's hottest. . .

And about college and everything in general, don't worry bro, again, in time things will settle down and be back to normal. But in the case that things do not go that way(which are very rare occurrences) know that they'll always be people to help you; of course me and other fellow ECers, but more importantly people close to you that you can talk to. You'd be surprised by some of the generosity in today's world and how close it is. Never give up looking for it Coops. Never give up trying to find the light, or waiting for it.

I hope everything gets better, and if you need anything you know where you can find me.

 

Yes I am online for about 8 to 14 hours a day!

 

Your dad is probably just using your brother as a reason to get angry. It's possibly just a minor thing that he's blown out of proportion to himself to justify his anger.
It's not very safe to live in a house with someone who tried to choke you and has problems like these. You may need to get away from him for a while, and if he steps his foot out of line again calling the authorities might be necessary to get him the help that he needs.
It may be worth trying to speak to your mother about this, and make sure he doesn't take his anger out on her either. Because if he does, you really need to get him sorted out.

 

I hope you go to your brother's wedding. Your dad has handled this situation horribly - but there's nothing you can do to change the past. You can only have an impact on today. Focus on today.

If your dad throws you out for no reason, maybe you'll be able to crash with your equally-disowned older brother and his new bride! (I'm sure they'll LOVE that!)

 

How did the wedding go?

 

Stay Calm, but do not stay SILENT. Don't ever let him touch you again. There is nothing in this world that gives him the right to do that. Father or Not.

Good Luck.

 

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