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He'll never accept me.

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by JamieTBoy, Jul 29, 2015.

  1. JamieTBoy

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    :help: I don't know what to do! There's this guy that I am completely in love with and have been for 3 years but he doesn't know I'm trans and he won't like me when he finds out.
    I saw him today and he told me that he likes me a lot and we made out a bit but I know that if he knew none of that would have happened.
    He comes from a very strict Christian background and he would never except me if I came out to him.
    I can't lie to him about being a boy but I don't think I can bear having my heart broken that badly.
    I don't know what to do. If I lie I'd be going against what God wants, but if I tell the truth I risk losing everything. If he finds out he could tell everyone at church and they'll never accept me back, my church is the only place that I truly feel save and I can't lose that.

    I don't know what to do. I love him and I want to spend the rest of my life with him but he'll leave once he knows I'm a he not a she.
     
  2. Yossarian

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    If he has known you for 3 years, he has probably figured it out and is cool with it; that doesn't mean he wants to "date" you, as he might be interested in a girl with fully operational female reproductive plumbing. If he hasn't figured it out, are you sure he is into you that much? Three years is a long time.