Who did you come out to first and why?

Who? A friend of mine who came out about a year earlier, he was in his 30s so he understood what it's like to do it at a later stage in life.

Why? I figured he'd understand that I might not want to tell everyone at that time, and that he wouldn't be all judgmental about it because he was in a similar situation.

Was I sure he wouldn't tell anyone?
I wasn't 100% sure he wouldn't talk to anyone, but honestly a few years later I don't really care if he did. But yes at the time it's always scary.

 

The fist person I came out to (twice) was my older sis, the first time was a mistake on my part. I was very scared of coming out to anyone in my family because I didn't know wether they would still love me or not. I was watching anime with my sis and we were talking about our real-life crushes when I accidentaly said my crushes name (pretty feminine name) instead of a made up boy name. She asked if I was gay and I was like 'OH NO.'
It turns out she thought it was really cool that I was gay and we continued talking about our crushes (it was more of her asking about my female crush)

The second time was a week ago at the beach where I came out to her as bigender. she didnt know what that was and was innocently curious, and after I explained at the best at my limited knowlege she was pretty ok with it, she even offered to buy me a binder with her card since I can't use my mother's card, or else she would know.

 

A couple who are dear friends. I made plans to go over there house. We had a drink and I told them at the dining room table.

He was like really. Actually he said really about 5 times. She just smiled in such an accepting way and the she asled me if I wanted to go to the Gay Men's Choir the next night, she had an extra ticket. I couldn't already had plans.

I came out to them first because I knew they ed be accepting.

It was the first time I uttered the word's "I'm Gay" to another person. It felt great. Fourtunatly it wasn't the last.

 

The first person I came out to was my brother. I think I did it because I couldn't take not telling anyone and I was pretty sure he knew already. I was right. I told my other brother maybe a couple weeks later. He knew too. I'm pretty sure my other brother has blabbed to some of his friends but he kept it a secret for a while. And at this point I don't really care if a bunch of 14 year olds know I'm gay. I just wanna be the one to tell the important people. Plus it's kinda nice to have a couple people in real life that I can be myself around I guess. Not that I'm pretending to be straight anymore. I just kinda 'tone it down' if that makes any sense. I'm not like super flamboyant but I guess I can be sometimes.I'm rambling, I should stop.

 

The first person I came out to was a lesbian I'd known for maybe two months. We got friendly, a little flirty. She asked, and I told her the truth. I felt safe, since she was gay and awesome -- I knew she'd be fine with it.
The first person I actively chose to tell was my best friend. I knew she was 100% accepting, just as pro-LGBT as I am, and I wanted to talk about my crush.

I trusted both of them not to tell anyone, but in truth I didn't care if they did. I was ready to be out.

My advice to you, CodeForLife, is to pick someone you really want to tell and someone you know will be fine with it. It could be one of your closest friends. It could be a gay acquaintance. It could be a cousin.
As far as them not telling anyone... you just have to ask, and see how much you trust them.

 

I came out to my best friends as gay a few hours after I realised I wasn't straight (I came out to them as bi at the time) but I'm male and my two main best friends are female so I guess it was just a matter of time

 

I came out to my parents first. Living with all those secret feelings had been so awful that I couldn't bear the thought of living with a whole secret life--and I was ready to move on into a new life. My parents were the only people with whom I felt I really had to have the whole sit down coming out conversation, so I got that out of the way and then just moved on into my new life. I never really actually came out to anyone else I just went on with my life and everyone else just found it...

 

My first and only is my hair stylist about 4 weeks ago. He's gay and of course accepting. It was so hard to say the words "I'm gay" but felt so damn good.

 

First couple of people were friends I knew that were gay or very pro-lgbt. After that, my bro & his wife, my best friend, and my parents.

 

The first person I came out to my friend . She and I trust one another very much and we tell each other almost everything.

 

The first person I came out to was a girl I had a crush on when I was 12. Me being 12, I trusted her blindly not to tell anyone.
And her being 12, of course she did...

The next person I came out to was my best friend a few years later. I remember being really nervous, and stuttering over the phone "Hey, you know [name]? Well, she, uhhh, aaah, she's my girlfriend..."
I was expecting a shitstorm, but all she said was "Oh, congratulations!:icon_bigg" I was so nervous and relieved that I just laughed :lol:
It was never an issue with her. No awkward questions, no "does this and that person know", I was still just the same old me, and I respect her greatly for that.

 

My mum, I've always had a good relationship with mum and she's always been very progressive, so there wasn't any real change, she even said she wished i'd come out sooner.
My brother already figured it out when he found gay porn pictures on the home pc, so I just had to say to him yeah its not a phase, I'm gay.
Friends came later and the few I had back then were a little confused but adapted to it quickly, some thinking I was straight, but they got over it.

 

Who did you come out to first and why?

I came out to my two closest cousins (who are like my brothers) first because I love them more than anything and they are, well, my bros.

How did you know who to come out to first?

It just kinda happened. They were drilling me on who I had a crush on and I finally broke down (not in a crying way though) and said my crush was a girl.

How could you be sure they wouldn't go around telling other people?

Because I told them not to and I know that they know when I'm being serious. They're my everything so I know they can keep their word

 

I came out to my friend (we weren't best friends, and we aren't friends anymore) because she was also struggling with sexuality and liked the same person that I do.

 

I came out to my bestest friend in the whole wide world! At the time we weren't as close cause I only met him that year but we were still pretty close and I knew he was an ally. He really helped me on my journey of accepting myself and I wouldn't be here without him!

 

I first came out to my best friend because he is the person I am closest to and he had already come out to me as trans so I knew that there wouldn't be a problem. I knew that my best friend wouldn't go around telling people because we have been very close since we were four years old and I trust him.

 

Who did you come out to first and why? My best friend. It sort of came up in conversation and I decided to go for it.

How did you know who to come out to first? Well, I didn't really think about it much prior to that.

How could you be sure they wouldn't go around telling other people? She's my best friend and I trust her. ^.^

 

To my best friend( Crush)