I've been waitinbg years and know im going to tell my mmom that im gay. this way if i do or do not end ups gay, theirrrrr wont be harsh consequences. thats only if she accepots me. i've missed out on sleep for 2-3 weedks i think. and i dom't feel anything hoilding me backl, im triered of living a lie. i kjnow this coning from me at ny age sounds tp early to decide. but all i want is to at least tell herr im confused or someting
GO GO!! l'M ROOTIN FOR YA !!!! GOOOOOOOOOOO! GO TO MOM AND TELL HER EVERYTHING!!! ALSO UR TYPING LIKE SHIT!
I got in the motion i was so ready!!! but the second i approached her i said "i have something to tell you". Then i felt chills through my whole body. I couldn't move my mouth, arms, legs, Everything! I was literally paralyzed! My body went in lock-down and wouldn't stop till i changed what i was going to say! I said "i'm........... having back pains can i go to the doctor" Sorry Guys i couldn't do anything, i felt so out of control. Wish i had the guts.
(Hug) Hang in there! This is often extremely terrifying/difficult. Do you think you might have an easier time communicating this to her in another way? A letter/email? I know you live with her and she will probably want to talk about it but maybe another way would help at first to just get it out there? If there are other things you want to say or feelings you want to express, this can help you organize them and get them out there as well. I came out to my dad in a letter, and that is the only way I felt I could tell him. Just a thought.
Some days ago I decided to come out to my family just to see their reactions and something similiar happened to me. I told my family: "Hey guys, I have to tell you something..." then here was this terrible akward silence and I thought: "Ohhhhh, now I know why people have a hard time coming out." but I ended up telling them anyway. So then my mom said: "Amen." while the others were like "Eh?" Then I asked them if they had any questions and they said no so I left and went to my room. :laugh: No crying, no hugs (lol hugs), no "it's okays". THIS ISN'T THE ENDING I WANTED! The only advice I can give you is... SHOUT IT! Just shout it. Maybe she'll start thinking her son is a crazy serial killer about to murder her or maybe she'll just find out more about her kid and give him a damn cool mom hug. wat
I'm glad things went well for you. Maybe they'll go the same for me. someday..................................
And hey, don't put pressure on yourself for not being able to say it. That happens all the time to people who are coming out, especially when it's with your parents. I haven't even tried telling my parents yet, just some friends - accepting friends even - and it was still hard to tell them. Several times I tried and I just couldn't get the words out. This is normal and okay. Coming out is a scary thing because you're revealing a personal part of yourself to someone and you're not sure how they'll react. So don't beat yourself up for it. Just having the courage to try and say it is something to be proud of all on its own. One step at a time. Hang in there<3 I'm sure you'll be able to get it out eventually, just be patient with yourself.
I'm getting help from my counselor. i told her about how i'm confused and stuff and she said i can talk to her anytime i needed.
Sometimes your parents know, I am not camp or anything but when I used the same words she just guessed and despite me telling her not to, told my dad in about 5 minutes flat. It was a bit of a shock for him took him a little time to get over it but were fine now as for my mum she took about 20 seconds lol.
